"My Pregnant Sister-In-Law Has Turned Into A B*tch And A Brat"

We all know pregnancy hormones can make us all a little cray cray, but this may just take the cake for expecting-mum diva behaviour.

A woman has take to reddit to air her frustrations about her 32-year-old sister-in-law, who is four months pregnant. Far from just the usual pregnancy hormone emotions, the mum-to-be’s demands have prompted a sweary outburst from her sister-in-law.

“Since she discovered she is (pregnant), she has been making various requests which I am not happy about,” her sister-in-law explained.

“She demands that if we go to family dinners in a restaurant we have to avoid certain places such as kebabs or sushi. We can’t go to cafes because she says the smell of coffee and pastries make her sick to her stomach, and that besides that she can’t drink coffee which she used to love.

“She is also in my friends group (I introduced her) and has the same attitude around clothes. We can’t go shopping anymore because she will start crying that she can’t wear the clothes or that the heels won’t fit her. We have told her that there must be clothes with a bigger size to complement her body now but she says that is a waste of energy and money.

“So, In three weeks it will be my 30th birthday so I want to make it special. Since I was a child my best friends and I favourite food has been sushi (we used to go out to this sushi place once a week) so I found this restaurant who will deliver me these freshly made sushi rolls. I have told sister-in-law today about this so I can warn her about the ‘potential nauseating smell’ that she says she hates.”

Despite making sure the sushi will be fresh and warning her sister-in-law, all hell broke loose.

“The moment I told her she got very mad. She told me how selfish I was for choosing the main food that she cannot eat at the moment. I tried to explain to her that I had always planned this and that I will also gather food specifically for her.”

“But she did not hear me. She screamed that I was doing this on purpose just to humiliate her like ‘all the other times’. It was then when I got very mad, and screamed back in front of her whole family (we were previously alone, but after hearing her screams people started to come) that she was being a b*tch since she found out she got pregnant, and that that was only an excuse to be how much of a brat she was and that she was prohibited from being near my house the day of my birthday.

“After that I was having none of it and went away leaving her crying.”

Since the blow up, she says she’s been getting non-stop messages from family saying she should apologise and that she’s been cruel.

“My husband agrees with me, but I am not sure, maybe I have not been empathetic. But I have thought about me being pregnant and I wouldn’t behave like that!”

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31 Comments

- - mom101628 said
  - 28 Jan 2023
    8:53 pm
Most people who are pregnant can manage these sorts of things very well without being a Prima Donna or Diva. Just carry on with your birthday celebration as though it never happened and show her how to act nicely by your actions.

- - MummaD said
  - 23 Jan 2023
    11:51 am
Sounds like SIL is being quite the DIVA. She is pregnant and very big drama queen.

- - Mad Bean said
  - 22 Jan 2023
    5:54 pm
This girl needs a reality check, Being pregnant doesn’t make you the centre of the universe. Very selfish behaviour. Personally when I was pregnant, I didn’t stop my family or friends for eating foods I couldn’t have I just got something else.

- - Mum.of.2. said
  - 21 Jan 2023
    5:51 pm
The SIL sounds nasty and selfish to me… pregnant or not, nit everything’s about her!

- - azmaz said
  - 21 Jan 2023
    2:42 pm
Wow, this sounds like someone i know. Unfortunately some people are selfish and one day will look back and realise what they have missed out on. She should focus on the good things and excitement and not put herself first all the time.

- - tessie said
  - 21 Jan 2023
    2:08 pm
Can you have 2 birthdays since it is a special day for you. Tell her that she is welcome to the second one if she wants but it’s your birthday and you should have it the way you want. I agree that she is being a real b***h making every day about her and ignoring everyone else’s feelings.

- - mom160270 said
  - 20 Jan 2023
    7:46 pm
They both need to compromise a little in order to get along.
- mom111059 replied
  
  24 Jan 2023 , 2:52 pm
  absolutely. No one is totally to blame.
- - mom111059 said
  - 20 Jan 2023
    3:17 pm
It’s hard to cope when you feel sick at certain food smells but not an excuse to rule everyone else.

- - mom465794 said
  - 20 Jan 2023
    2:36 pm
thats very selfish of her and she shouldnt act that way even if shes pregnant

- - mom169205 said
  - 20 Jan 2023
    9:11 am
She should of just said she’d come after the sushi no problems not up to her what others can and can not eat

- - snazzy007 said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    11:14 pm
Very selfish attitude, being pregnant doesn’t entitle you to such behaviour

- - CrystalG said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    6:19 pm
As someone who suffered greatly with HG I would still never of acted like this. I’m sure there would be areas away from the food that she could situate herself. Definitely bratty behaviour.

- - mom57569 said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    5:50 pm
Everyone can be a dragon at some time BUT being pregnant is not an excuse to tell everyone that they can’t do things or can’t shop or can’t eat their favourite foods. SIL needs to either hide away for the rest of her pregnancy or choose what she wants to attend. Why should you not have the birthday you have always wanted because SIL doesn’t like the smell. I wouldn’t apologise to her but I would invite her to my birthday. It is then up to her to either come or not. You put up with as much as you could and then realised that if you didn’t say something it would continue and make you life a living nightmare. No you are not in the wrong. It’s just a pity it got to the yelling stage.

- - mom486400 said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    5:16 pm
When I was pregnant I couldn’t stand the smell of a lot of things however I never imposed my dislikes on anyone nor made people bend over to suit my needs.
- mom93821 replied
  
  21 Jan 2023 , 5:36 am
  Similar, I just happily avoided a number of events and places.
- - sars_angelchik said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    1:19 pm
She is being a total diva! The writer has made concessions for her- they aren’t going out to a restaurant and she is organizing special food for her. It is her birthday after all. The sister in law is being unreasonable. She’s also being a total brat about the shopping- if you don’t want to go, don’t, don’t be a downer on everyone else.

- - Jmac said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    1:01 pm
1. Yes pregnany hormones can make people ‘off’
2. however it sounds as though she is using it for an excuse. She’s pregnant – not everyone else. And while loving friends will try to make it easier for her, they don’t have to change their whole lives over it! She should suck it up – everyone else has had to suck up not eating certain foods or doing certain things, She can too. And stop being a princess

- - cassy26 said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    10:33 am
It’s your birthday! Do what makes you happy. If she doesn’t like it she doesn’t have to come…

- - rovermum said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    9:50 am
Honey, you’re not in the wrong. I was sick 24/7 my entire pregnancy and I did not expect anybody to change their lives for me. She is being a brat and she needs to apologise. I’m so sorry this has happened to you, but her behaviour is just a cop out. She is playing the victim and needs to acknowledge that, and so does everyone else. I couldn’t stand the smell of coffee, but I did not ask my hubby not to drink it. He just drank it away from me. I could not stand the smell of food cooking in my house, so my Mum prepared the meals and brought them to our home. There are alternatives for everyone. Happy 30th Birthday. Please celebrate it your way and in the way you had always imagined.

- - Ellen said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    8:43 am
Well of course sister in law can’t expect that everyone is stopping and dropping what they’re usually doing. She could just chose to avoid these events and join only the events she’s happy with. That being said it’s also good for family members to chose activities that suit all at times.
A pity this couldn’t be communicated in calmness and understading

- - mom489365 said
  - 19 Jan 2023
    8:34 am
You just have to do you! Leave her behind to sook. She needs to toughen up and realise life still goes on when you’re pregnant and it’s only 9months.