An expecting mum has detailed the underhanded and callous ways her sister has tried to steal the limelight, including announcing her pregnancy to family who were gathered at hospital supporting her through a miscarriage.
The 32-year-old woman says her 43-year-old sister Beth has a long history of tasteless behaviour, which started a decade ago.
“Ten years ago I learned I was pregnant for the first time,” she explained on reddit. “It was a little unexpected but my husband and I were so excited and we told our families. Beth was a mum of two at the time. Two days after my first ultrasound I started bleeding heavily, ended up passing out and discovered I had lost the baby.
“I called and told my family. My parents and siblings decided to come and see me. While I was on the phone with Beth she told me she was pregnant and wanted to tell everyone to make the bad news easier, and would I prefer for her to wait until they had left the hospital or would I like her to say it there.
“I told her I would appreciate her waiting until they weren’t in my room.”
But Beth didn’t listen – instead showing up at the hospital, and announcing her happy news. All while her sister lay in a hospital bed, devastated.
“She announced to the family around my hospital bed and made a big deal out of hugging every person there in celebration.”
“The rest of the family looked shell shocked and our sister closest in age to me, Chlo, asked if I was okay and asked if I wanted them to kick her out. I was too depressed to answer.
“A couple of years later I was diagnosed as infertile because I could not conceive again, even after we started trying. I told my family as a heads up because it got me down and I was trying to come to terms. Beth’s words were, ‘That’s aright because I’m pregnant’. Cue even more shock from the family and them scolding her for saying anything even remotely close to that.”
The woman says she now pregnant, thanks to IVF, but kept her fertility journey private.
“We kept quiet on our journey with IVF, our families knew we planned to pursue it but we didn’t give regular updates in case it failed, and waited until we got the positive pregnancy test to confirm. Babies were safe and still alive after my first scan and we decided that was the time for us.
“During a regular family dinner we made the announcement. Nobody knew it was coming. But during the announcement Beth jumps in and says she believes she could be pregnant again (she wasn’t) and wanted everyone to know.”
Now that the expecting-mum’s baby shower is being planned, she’s decided that she doesn’t want her older sister on the invite list – and it hasn’t gone down well.
“Chlo, my SIL (brother’s wife) and BIL (other brother’s husband) are throwing my shower. I told them I didn’t want to invite Beth. That I feared she would try to turn it into her celebration or make more insensitive comments. They all understood and said they agreed.
“Beth found out I was having a shower and tried to find out info. She was told that info was not being given out. Then she tried to corner Chlo, who told her that she, SIL and BIL had decided not to invite her (Beth) since she seemed to be unable to be compassionate to me or let me have a moment after a decade of struggling to have a baby.
“Beth then approaches me and I told her I didn’t want her there. She told me she’s my sister and I’m being childish and petty about it. Her husband then called me and said I was punishing Beth for having kids easily when I couldn’t. Am I the a**hole?”
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Ellen replied
- 14 Oct 2022 , 8:53 am
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