Imagine suffering through miscarriage after years of infertility, only to have a family member lay the blame on your body. For this woman, it sparked a heated argument with her sister-in-law, and not everyone has taken her side.

The 31-year-old says she’s never had a close relationship with her sister-in-law Valerie, but they are on ‘ok’ terms most of the time.

“That is until she started making comments about my physical health,” the woman explained on reddit. “She always points out how thin and small my figure is (I’ve always been like this). Especially my flat chest or non-existent butt.

“In comparison, she is blessed in those areas. She cares so much about her appearance and most of her time and money is spent on that. Anyways I try to always take it easy and not get offended since she’s just making ‘observations’.”

The woman recently discovered she was pregnant after three years of trying and says her entire family was thrilled for her and her husband. But the joy was short-lived, after she suffered a ‘devastating’ miscarriage.

“My mother-in-law invited me for dinner last night as a way to cheer me up. Valerie and my brother-in-law were there too. We were talking during dinner and Valerie brought up my miscarriage. She flat out said that the miscarriage happened because of my body and ‘my small and limited potential it has to be able to carry a baby’.

“Not going to lie, this shook me hard.”

“My husband looked at me hoping I’d let it go but I looked at Valerie from head to toe then pointed at her chest and said, ‘Oh I see that’s where all your brains and class melted to’. She was stunned eyes wide open.

“BIL got involved saying this was not cool but I argued that she made a jab at my body and basically blamed it for the miscarriage. We all started arguing but my husband sat there quietly watching. I got up, gathered my stuff and told him I wanted to go home.

“He was quiet the whole ride home but scolded me hours later saying what I said was totally mean and out of line and his SIL was just making “an observation”. He told to call her up and apologise for what I said since she and his brother are upset but I declined.

“I think maybe I shouldn’t have said this and ruined dinner that was set up for me. Am I the a**hole?”

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