Perhaps she is jealous of you having a daughter and having daddy/daughter time? No need for either party to be rude – each to their own with raising their kids, but don’t need to be mean either.

I think the sister was wrong in saying those things about raising boys as opposed to raising girls especially in front of her niece. She should learn to keep her opinions to herself if they are going to cause grief.

Holy moley. I’m the Mother of an only child, a boy, and gee… it’s been really tough on many levels. I’m just happy and blessed to be a Mum as I was told I never would be. So being a parent is precious. However, it’s also the toughest, hardest, most challenging job I’ve ever had. My son is a beautiful human being, and my toughest opponent has actually been other parents in terms of how their values, etc. clash with those of my husband and I. I do not think you’re being an a-hole at all. I think your sister is. I adore my nieces and have been very close to one in particular throughout her life. Such a shame your sister can’t find it in her to be a role-model or decent human being for your daughter, her niece.

I have 3 boys and i still love girls though not having one myself… i might envy girl parebts but thats no reason to be mean…specially in front of the child herself.

Not the a*hole at all. What about how she upset your daughter. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing. Sounds like sj=he never got over not having a girl.

Unless she wanted a girl and this is her way of dealing with not having one. Its all a bit strange to act like that though

On the moment you feel so angry that you feel for name calling your sister, I think it would have been better to call her aside and have a calm conversation about it

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  Sister is certainly in the wrong saying these things in front of her niece, but good to be the wisest and remain calm

This just sounds really strange to me. I’m a boy mum, I have 3 sons, I would never act like that… what on earth. Quite frankly I think raising kids is hard regardless of gender, why focus on whether the are boys/girls so much?

Haha all I could think was “what don’t boys go to concerts and wait in line for merch?” Haha
Raising kids is hard and easy and both genders have their own difficulties I think

I have two boys, the youngest and the eldest with a daughter in-between and I would say that the boys got better as they got older while my daughter got worse. I wouldn’t have taken it to the extent as your sister has, particularly as she doesn’t have any girls. Girls have more problems growing up than boys which is one reason they are more difficult to raise.

Tough situation and I honestly don’t know what to say other than wow. Your sister is entitled to her opinion but to say it in front of your daughter is wrong.

I have a daughter and wouldn’t change it for the world.

I don’t think name calling here was an appropriate response. It would have been more effective to focus on the behaviour and talk with his sister when his daughter wasn’t around.

I am so
Happy I have a girl
And wouldn’t change it for the world!

I think the sister is an A-hole!
She’s probably jealous and bitter that she doesn’t have a girl.
When her boys are older they’re not going to go shopping with her or get their nails done etc. so that’s where she’ll miss the company.
I think it’s great he’s so close to his girl!

I feel like youre always going to say it biased based on what you have. Id just not Let it bother me

He is not as ahole. Every child is different and I’ve got a girl and 2 boys and at different ages they have their moments and difficulties. I can’t say whether it’s easier brining up boys or girls. I have my moments.

Sounds to me she’s possibly jealous she doesn’t have a girl and is acting out about it. Her poor niece. I have 3 boys and a girl and yes I think boys are easier to raise but I’d never act that way about it.

How would the sister know what it’s like to raise a daughter if she doesn’t have a daughter? Her comments seem to be very ignorant and cruel.

The sister sounds like the AH here. I hate when people make their whole persona about being a mum. Also though this sounds like the sister could actually be harbouring resentment towards the brother for having a girl when she didn’t.

In my opinion your sister should back up and show her niece some love and respect by allowing her to share her enjoyment and excitement as she feels
Your allowed to voice your views especially when it comes to your daughter…
your daughter will respect you so more for having her back
Keep having and building a fantastic bond with your daughter ..
Your sister as an adult is in the wrong and so is your mother
Kept a peaceful distance from them both if they continue to upset both of you