It sounds like the sister is being purposely malicious. I don’t know what the sisters were like growing up, but it seems like too much of a coincidence that she just happened to like the same too names that the other sister had already picked. She probably only decided she liked them because the other sister wanted them. Then to name her daughter something that is almost exactly the same as both of the names together is ridiculously hurtful and now that the other sister is going to have a baby herself will feel like she can’t use either of her special names. I think it’s horrible behaviour and can understand why she doesn’t want her sister at the baby shower. She has been purposely hurtful when she should have been supportive.

So sorry for your losses. It is indeed a very underhanded move by your sister. My suggestion is to tell your mum you would prefer the shower after bub is born. Have a huge celebration for what sex the bub is and do invite your sister ..you are the better person here. Also only announce the chosen name after bubs arrival . My suggestions for names are heavenly chosen and do make sure you tell your sister that the heavens are looking down and protecting your precious bub.
GIRL: Angelica -Latin meaning messenger or another version Angelisa
BOY: Altair – Arabic. “The flyer.” Altair is the brightest star in the Aquila constellation.

Life’s full of too many sad things. You will gain nothing by cutting off your sister. As hard as it may be allow her into your life & you’ll find that is more satisfactory to you. Do the right thing. Clearly she is jealous of you so you will always have the upper hand by doing the right thing

So sorry to hear you went through this. The things your sister said and did are very hurtful indeed and I can imagine you don’t want to invite her to your baby shower when things haven’t been made right. Without making things right no healing in your relationship with her can take place and it seems your sister is not open for that.

That wasn’t very nice of your sister, no one can predict what happens & yes it’s beautiful you are now pregnant but even if you were never to be able to have children it didn’t give your sister right to steal the names. I’m sure there was other names she & her partner were thinking off. Sounds she being spiteful. I’m so sorry what you went through with your miscarriages. I wouldn’t invite her to your baby shower either you deserve happy positive people around you. If your mum not happy & supportive of your decision after all you been through then she doesn’t deserve to be there either. I hope you & your partner have now come up with new special beautiful names that will truly be blessed to be your daughter or son’s names!

hard lesson to learn. NEVER tell anyone your selected names until bub is born.
If you no longer want to have anything to do with your sister then that is your right so best just to say thank you but no thank you to the baby shower. Sadly your sister seems nasty

Dealing with miscarriages and the grief associated with such losses is an incredibly distressing journey. It’s completely reasonable to have those names hold a significant place in your heart, especially after the hardships you and your husband went through. Your feelings about your sister choosing the names you hold dear are entirely valid. It’s clear these names weren’t just arbitrary choices; they were connected to the dreams and aspirations you held for your little ones. The insensitivity and hurtful comments you endured, especially during such a delicate time, have undoubtedly added to your pain.

Sounds like your sister has some very bad feelings towards you. I’d go so far as to say hate? Because that’s a horrible thing to do.

That’s so bizarre. Why would she use those names? If she isn’t considerate about that, it’s probably good not to have her in their lives.

Goodness thats just awful. How could she do that to you does she have no compassion. I wonder if you guys normally get along or if she is just a nasty pasty all the time. I hope you find the perfect baby name.

I’d be on non speaking terms with my sister too if she pulled this on me. There are SO many named in the world, you dont need to pinch someone else’s. That’s a really low, heartless blow

wow, thst’s a horrible thing for your sister to do to you. I hope all goes well in your pregnancy & the name you choose for your baby fits and suits them

Wow, you poor thing. I’m so sorry you had to experience that. You are not in the wrong at all. Your sister’s behaviour is apalling and obviously supported by your mother. It was so inconsiderate, uncaring, and mean to use those names under the circumstances. I am so glad you are pregnant and wish you all the best. But I would stand firm too on not inviting your sister. In fact, if your Mum wants to continue to broach it with you, I’d consider uninviting her too. Family can be cruel, entitled, selfish and mean. It doesn’t mean that you have to be stuck with them or put up with it just because they are family.

Think you are within your rights – I wouldn’t want my nasty sister there either. I do hope it doesn’t cause a rift between you and your mother, however.

Yeah I’d be raging if this was my situation. I don’t know what it is with people chowing names that others have chosen for themselves. I guess they do it because likely everyone else has said they like the name and means they don’t have to spend time picking one themself.

No, I would be upset as well. You don’t need that sort of negativity and spitefulness in your life.. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

This is so disappointing that the sister would do this. There are so many beautiful names to choose from. I would be annoyed too and probably wouldn’t want her there.

That would have been very hurtful. Although you can’t call dibs on a name in most circumstances, I think this is a situation where the sister should clearly have avoided the chosen names.

That’s poor form and pathetic move by the sister. It’s not as if the woman had ruled out ever having children. How many million other names could she have chosen, too. Sad.

She may have loved the names and thought it was a way of keeping the names in the family but the worst thing is the way she treated you after your miscarriages. I don’t think you’re wrong about not wanting your sister there. If you believe it’s going to ruin the baby shower just tell your Mum you don’t want to have a baby shower if she insists on inviting your sister. Maybe one of your friends would like to do that for you instead.