A mum who discovered a suspicious message on her husband’s Instagram account says she’s not sure if her reaction is over-the-top, or justified, and is asking if other women would classify it as cheating.
The woman took to an online forum to share her story, and ask for opinions, after finding out what her husband had been up to.
“Two days ago I was browsing the internet on our laptop and I clicked on a link to Instagram, which was already logged in on my husband’s account. Curiosity got the better of me and I went through his messages (which I have only done one other time during our 10 years together).
“I saw he had sent a direct message to a model who lives in the same city as us, it read ‘Hello love! I would love to meet you’, it also said underneath the message ‘invite sent’, I don’t use social media but I assume it’s an invite to chat. The model never responded.”
The mum says she was in shock, and has never had any reason to worry during their marriage.
“He has always been to most devoted husband and father. We have married acquaintances and family members we know that have cheated on their spouses or that flirt with others and he always berates these people so this has come as a huge shock to me.
“He has always shown himself to be a man of honour and has always given me everything I wanted and needed. Whenever I’m unwell he will always help nurse me back to health. My family always tell me how lucky I am and I believed it.”
Unable to keep what she had found to herself, the woman confronted her husband, and told his family.
“I confronted him and he admitted it, saying it was a moment of weakness and that he would never actually meet her. I also forwarded a screenshot to his family in our group chat.
“They told me that they understood my anger but he has not cheated as he never met this woman and that the conversation never went further. I don’t know if this a cultural thing (they’re Italian) and normal for Italian men to behave like this. They did however tell him off over the phone as to why he even went to message another woman.
“Last night he broke down in tears (which is rare) and profusely apologised after I yelled at him, calling him a hypocrite for criticising others for cheating when he did the same.
“I can see he feels guilty as he’s been going over and beyond helping with looking after the house and children since then. Is my reaction over the top? Would you class this as cheating?”
The responses from other women in the forum were mixed – some saying it wasn’t cheating, others saying the only reason he didn’t cheat is because the model didn’t respond.
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