More then once.
Ive also lost a partner so i know what that feels like also.
Life is too short to spend time with someone you dont love but if you are with someone you love then let them know often and never part with anger.

It certainly makes you think. When my youngest was 11 months old, I was driving home after a shopping trip and was 10 kms from home, when a rear tyre blew and the wheels locked when I put on the brakes. The car rolled 5 – 6 times and ended up an embankment. There was blood pouring from my sons head and luckily a couple of young guys saw the car and raced to help us. They took us straight to the hospital which was only 5 minutes away but unfortunately never left their names so I was unable to personally thank them. I know someone was looking out for us because of what the police told me later. The car was on a sharp bend and the police said the car never crossed over the lines, because of the car seat my son was in the blood was just from surface cuts. If he’d been in a different car seat he would have been killed because the glass went half way through the sides of the head of the carseat, my handbag fell out of the car and a truck driver dropped it into the police station and everything was still there. My son just ended up with surface cuts to his scalp that you can’t notice and I just ended up with a slight dent in the top of my right leg. I’m just so glad that we had a guardian angel with us that day.

certainly doe make us re thin what is important.

I think if he had taken his bike he would have avoided the accident altogether, as he would have had to put the bike away and get the car keys etc making him leave later than he should have planned.

But I do totally get it! I was in an accident some months ago. My eldest was in the back of the car when we were rear ended. If my car hadn’t been angled to turn the corner, it could have been a very different story. In fact 30 seconds probably would have meant somebody would have died as my car was hit with enough force that it was pushed into oncoming traffic. A (thankfully heavy) truck was slow at taking off from the lights so managed to stop. Had he gotten started he would have surely killed my child. I kept the car in a position that I felt would give her the best chance as the truck would have hit me full on. And what still haunts me now, months later is when I sat there waiting for the truck to hit us and possibly kill us I never called out “I love you” to my daughter. If I hadn’t come to a stop as the lights changed it would have been the woman who hit me that would have possibly been killed, along with her child, in the accident by the truck.
On top of that my husband also had his car written off just a week ago! He too was stopped at an intersection when he was slammed into by a car doing 70k/ph. It was enough force that his car hit the one in front of him hard enough to move that car, resulting in a 4 car pileup!
Amazingly in both accidents, my husband and I were the only ones to be injured and we both got whiplash at the worst! Both cars are easily replaced but lives are not!

Thank you for sharing and thank goodness everything was ok.

No the towel doesn’t matter, but also sometimes it’s ok to get upset by the dirty towel. We are only humna

An interesting story teach us a lesson.

Luck was truly on his side that day! It’s amazing how one quick decision can change the outcome

Mum always says never leave after an argument until you’ve resolved it and are ok again as you’d never want your last words to be bad ones, so true

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 10 May 2021 , 4:35 am

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  Yes ! Don’t let anger control you or let the sun go down while you are still angry

Fifteen years ago on a beautiful morning my then fourteen year old daughter took her horse for a ride around the property where we were living. About an hour after she had left my neighbours ten year old son was banging on my front door and yelling at me to come quickly because my daughter had had a bad fall and his mum was with her and they were waiting for an ambulance. My daughter was taken to the local hospital then later transferred to the children’s hospital in Melbourne with a C2 spinal fracture. Thanks to the quick thinking of my neighbour and professional care of the paramedics and hospital staff, my daughter made a full recovery and was back riding her horses twelve months later. Something has to have been looking out for her, that fall could have been a death sentence

I must admit that in the 35+ years of my husband and I being together, there has never been a time when we haven’t kissed and said ‘I love you’ as we have parted for work or whatever. These days it is even more needed as he is ill and could die anytime. He also will not leave the house without a parting kiss and ‘I love you’ and also every evening going to sleep.

There is a God and he cares about us intimately. We can’t always see the bigger picture and it may not always seem fair, but one day we will understand and our eyes will be opened to see that He held us every time we cried.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 08 May 2021 , 6:32 am

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  Amen Angel chick, I agree with you !

I ensure “I love you” are the last words I say to my kids and my husband whenever we part. Sounds silly, but I feel like it’s armouring me against regrets.

I would have been just as annoyed regardless of it was a missing towel or coffee table full of snack rubbish and empty soft drink cans. We are all guilty of occasionally not saying goodbye and this just yells at me to always take the time to tell my husband and children I love them whenever they leave my sight. The most important thing is that they come back to me. But if tragedy strikes (I pray to god it doesn’t) then I want them to know they are loved, and it would give me peace to have said it

Yes these events put things into perspective but everything is relevant, feelings and emotions are relevant. Just because someone has it worse or something bad might happen doesn’t take away from the day to day feelings and frustrations we have.

And yes, just because I wanted a water birth and had to book in a different hospital, I had a scan 2 weeks early which resulted in an emergency section. Would I have come 2weeks later for the planned section, my daughter wouldn’t have made it. God’s hand was upon her, from that I’m convinced.

Thank God He must have sent His angels to charge concerning you and guard your husband in his ways !

Years ago I missed being hit by a speeding car by literally a split second. I have thought of each day since as a bonus, because I could have easily died that day. I do say a quick prayer every night and count my blessings.

A good reminder to count my blessings

Very thankful