My second child was a bit like that. I remember when he was 10 months old he still fedten times per twenty four hours. But it’s just a temporary stage and it will get better, I promise ! Ready your story I wonder why an epidural was denied despite you asking for it during the delivery ??

Oh Girl i hear you with the baby that never sleeps thing. My eldest was like that and my partner was zero help so I felt very much like a single mum but without the worry of where the income was coming from. Thankfully we got there in the end and I went on to have two more who were both great sleepers.

Its hard..they all need time to work

oh i remember those early days. They are bloody hard.

Definitely remember those feels, my first pregnancy was my twins. Loom it gets so much better. Recently had my 3rd baby and the experience was far calmer

I remember those early days – it’s hard but it does get better

Your life is not over, it will get better, it truly will. Accept all help you can and connect with other mums, you’re not alone !

As a women who went through ALOT to have a baby. Had severe Hypermesis Gravidarum, horrendous birth story and a very hard first 6 months with the baby only sleeping for an hour or two at a time unfortunately I cannot relate at all. I’m surrounded by a lot of women who have lost babies in the last few years myself included, friends who are unable to get pregnant and all other circumstances and no matter how hard the day is I am lucky enough to just feel extremely grateful that I have a healthy child to love. I think if you can understand at the end of the day that a new born is hard but it’s not forever and you will never be able to go back and redo these early days it makes it alot easier to appreciate every moment. Even the hard bits.

It certainly gets better otherwise I wouldn’t have had 4. Get help [Beyond Blue is a great one] and eventually it will settle and you’ll love your child. Just keep on going and get as much help as you can.

It’s a big change when you bring a baby into your life. Hopefully your partner helps out where he can. Maybe you should talk to your GP to find out if you may have the baby blues. It would have been more stress on you because of your difficult birth. Definitely get help but I believe, deep down, that you will get better and will love being a Mum. Do you have any friends or family who can look after your baby for a couple of hours during the day so you can have a sleep? Wish you all the best and congratulations on the birth of your son.

I wish there were more people brave enough to say this, as there are times when I have felt this, and felt very guilty about it, especially as I moved heaven and earth to be able to have my kids via ivf overseas with donors. No hallmark card for ‘oh my god this is so bleak’….. It absolutely does get better, hang on in there, talk to people, esp beyond blue, or gp, or CaFH s – they will all hear you without judgement and positive ideas of how to help. Big, big hugs to you, and pat yourself on the back for being strong enough to say what lots of us have felt at times.

I have 4 kids, at one stage I had 3 under 5 years. I always called the first 6 weeks “the black hole” as it’s so hard and relentless. It gets better after that.

It does seem like all doom and gloom but definitely does get better but I do wonder how people cope with a multiples etc

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  • • mom111059 replied
    • 26 Aug 2022 , 2:28 pm

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  Absolutely it does get better with time. take care.

Oh honey, first of all you are not alone and it does get better with time. I encourage you, to seek help when I was going through some blue days I called Beyond Blue, just one of many amazing helplines that help parents even Dad who are struggling, for me it was just nice to talk to someone and even better they didn’t know me so no judgement. Sending light and hugs xox

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  • • mom468034 replied
    • 26 Aug 2022 , 12:55 pm

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  well said!

Poor mummy. I hope you get some help…sleep school, mental health support…someone to make meals

Poor Mum! Get some help, sleep school, family, partner etc. Ask anyone and everyone.

It’s the hormones, lack of sleep and the overwhelm. It will get better. When bub is 3 months and can hold his/her head and smile things will change a little. It took me 12 months (due to complications, baby illness, etc.) but only when my son was 1 did I start to enjoy it in a way I hadn’t before. Hang in there and get some support.

Im 4 months in after bub #2, I felt exactly the same with bub #1!
Anxiety, PPD, hit the roof, while bubba slept, I didn’t.
It does get easier, 2nd time you know what to expect, but having said that, I’m still not sleeping at night with anxiety!
Please talk to your GP or your mum’s group? They can be a fabulous support. Big hugs mumma. xo

It absolutely gets easier… Those first 6 weeks especially I found to be the hardest. Living with literally no sleep and still having to function and care for a crying baby can be pretty much torture… Please ask for help and take it when its offered. I’m not sure what sort of family/friend support you have but even an hour here or there can make a huge difference; just so you can take a nap or have a shower/eat etc.. It sounds like your pregnancy/birth was really traumatic as well so it may be worth speaking to your GP for some further support there as well. Just try and remember the clouds will lift and life will become brighter again, its super tough while you are going through it but it doesn’t last and when you look back you will just remember the good bits..

I think she is quickly assuming that this is the norm and not to ask for help. Definitely ask for professional help with the baby’s sleeping and reach out to family and friends. We don’t all instinctively know what to do and reading a million bits of advice online can confuse the matter. It can all be overwhelming but even more so with little sleep. It does get better.