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You know when you receive a wedding invitation in a stunning gift box and in very fine print at the bottom of the gorgeously elaborate card it informs the guests that under NO circumstances are they to bring along their offspring? That’s right – “No Kids Allowed!”

I know that for some, these terms and conditions of attending a wedding can be a deal breaker, especially if you don’t have anyone that you can leave your little ones with at the time. However, for me, I do a happy dance!

Sure, I love my children and like most mothers, I claim that they would all be on their best behaviour if they got to attend. But what if they weren’t? What if for some odd reason they were not the little darlings I claim them to be on the day?!

Kids Can Spoil It For Everyone

It’s sort of like when you pay to go to a restaurant or any other establishment just to relax, unwind and enjoy yourself….and then someone’s child decides at that very moment to lose their little mind and take each paying guest along for the ride.

I always question the fairness of this deal. It seems like there can be absolutely no winners in the situation at all. On one hand, you have paying adults who are attending a venue to enjoy themselves, relax and have a good time without causing any disruption to other patrons. Then on the other hand you have paying adults who have chosen to bring their kids, who also want to have a good time but are powerless when it comes to their children bringing the house down. It’s a raw deal for all involved really.

Memorable For All The Wrong Reasons

Similarly, when you attend a wedding, even if a child doesn’t cause a distraction during the speeches, they could very well create a drama for other guests and completely ruin their experience. And instead of the wedding being memorable for all the right reasons, it’s instead remembered for the way someone’s little rugrat shot cake through their straw at wedding guests as though they were a little sniper.

No Kids Allowed In Maternity Wards

You can only imagine my excitement when I read the words: “Unfortunately, no kids allowed in the hospital”. Sure, a maternity ward is not even close to any wedding venue. But you know what? After giving birth, I love the thought of bonding with my baby, getting them to sleep – without anyone’s kids visiting their new baby brother or sister and waking my freshly popped baby who I just managed to settle to sleep.

For goodness sake, birth is an absolutely mind, body and soul blowing experience of which all new mother’s deserve a rest from. Can you just imagine the frustration of just having given birth, settled your newborn, only to have someone else’s kids screaming and waking all the babies in the ward?

It doesn’t sound very pleasant does it? In fact, after my first baby, I made the decision never to have a sibling visit their newborn brother or sister – and I stuck to it! I mean I can’t guarantee that my kids aren’t going to squeal loudly at the sight of their new baby in the hospital. I know for certain they do when we bring the baby home which means that they most probably would squeal loudly in any setting that they get to see the baby in. It’s only natural.

But…I’ll Miss Them…

Even though I can relate and understand their excitement, I must admit that the introduction of this new ‘No Kids Allowed’ rule at hospital excites me even more! The thought of a peaceful maternity ward where the only other sounds are other newborn cries is appealing to me… or maybe it just makes me feel better knowing that I won’t hear your little ones and start to miss all of mine like crazy… Yes, the way the thought makes me sigh I know that’s precisely what it is. I don’t want to miss my tribe even more than I already would be.

Do you agree with the No Kids Allowed rule in hospitals and at weddings and other events? Tell us in the comments below.

  • We had kids at our wedding and some people were disappointed cos they wanted a night away- but kids are part of our lives too

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  • Children are valuable parts of our community, families and lives. Not including them in celebrations etc is mean spirited.

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  • I’d feel sad that my daughter wouldn’t be allowed to visit me in hospital after giving birth.
    She wouldn’t be able to meet her baby sibling until I was able to come home.
    She’s never slept over anyone else’s house before so I can only imagine how she would be feeling. I think this is unfair.
    I get that it would be disruptive to have other people’s kids making noise but maybe they should pay a bit more for their own room.

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  • Quite a few people I know opted for kids at the ceremony (if their parents wanted to bring them) but not at the party. This seemed a good compromise, as who wants to deal with tired kids at 10pm at a reception?

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  • I think no kids allowed on weedings or party is just mean and rude ..

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  • Weddings and adult birthday parties I can agree with and unless immediate family I don’t see the reason for children to attend funerals either but no children in a maternity ward is a little sad. I loved having my children come in to meet their new baby brother or sister. It was a special moment that should be permitted by anyone who want to experience it.

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  • Weddings are up to the couple I feel. What’s the age that one classifies as achild tho?

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  • Each to their own. If its not your wedding or your birth you don’t have a right to argue with the decisions of the people who have invited you. If you do have a problem with it, you don’t go. Simple. I found out that a close friend didn’t invite me to her wedding because she didn’t know how to tell me my 1 year old couldn’t come. It wasn’t my decision to make so I still have no problem with it. When I took my baby home from the hospital my MIL brought her 2 yappy dogs to my house without asking. I was furious.

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