Parents Advertise for Nanny to Teach Their Kids About Sex

UK family advertise to pay a nanny $4500 to have “the talk” with their kids.

The anonymous mother recently posted the job ad on a popular UK parenting site, explaining she was “looking for someone to handle this for us” because the pair “don’t trust the school to do a proper job teaching either of our children about the complexities of puberty, intimacy and consent”.

The successful candidate would be required to teach the couple’s eight-year-old daughter and seven-year-old son about sex and puberty in the couple’s home in Bath, England, either in a “all-in-one” session or in shorter sessions over a period of up to six weeks depending on what was deemed best for the children’s “understanding and development”.

The ideal candidate must be willing to cover sex between “two people who are in love” — although the parents point out “preferably married but we’re modern enough to know that’s not always possible”.

Consent “with a possible discussion of rape culture” must also be discussed along with sex with both genders, periods, sexually transmitted infections, contraception and protection, pregnancy, an explanation of pregnancy and “other gender types — transgender, non-binary etc”.

“Like most parents, we were hoping we would have more time before this became a problem; ideally, I’d avoid it altogether!” the mother wrote.

“But we’re at the point now where they aren’t satisfied with the answer we’re giving them.

“My husband and I are willing to pay £2500 ($4463) to the right candidate who can handle this delicately and professionally.”

All sessions will take place while either one or both parents are home “so the children can come and find us if it’s getting too much for them”, although the parents will not sit in on the lessons.

The successful candidate must have background checks and experience in a similar role “would be favourable”.

Is it any wonder parents want to outsource – remember these?

Recently we shared that parents are employing people to de-lice their children. Read more.

We also recently shared how UK parents have been criticised for “outsourcing” the job of potty training their child because they didn’t have time – read more on that here.

Is nothing off limits to be outsourced these days?

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16 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 12 Mar 2022
    12:58 pm
I must say that i find this rather concerning. Its weird to me that a parent wouldnt know how to talk to their children about such things.

- - mom101628 said
  - 09 Jun 2018
    10:26 pm
If as a parent you cannot have this talk with your child/children then you have no rights to being a parent in the first place.

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 07 Mar 2018
    12:51 pm
Lazy parenting if you ask me. This is coming from someone who herself had lazy parents in this particular regard. My mum simply refused to talk about sex to me so the only ideas I had were from what I learned in school so I understood the science, but had no idea of what it would be like. I plan to teach my children better.

- - ella12 said
  - 05 Mar 2018
    12:36 pm
This is just ridiculous. The parents should be doing that themselves.

- - mom109199 said
  - 04 Mar 2018
    11:47 am
Surely this is a joke. It’s the parents responsibility to teach the children such things. In my opinion some basic things should already have been covered by these children’s ages. Children are naturally curious so we should always answer there questions as openly and honestly as possible. For me, in the early days, my daughter and I usually talked about such things whilst in the car. It was just a little easier because we didn’t need to have eye contact. As we both got more comfortable with it all, we didn’t have to wait until we were in the car to have these conversations.

- - mom93821 said
  - 03 Mar 2018
    5:34 pm
Parents should have the conversation as the conversation is an ongoing one. However, if they feel they are not able to for whatever reasons then at least they are addressing it.

- - mom19782016 said
  - 03 Mar 2018
    3:39 pm
Surely this is a prank? It’s kinda funny if it is but a bit scary if it isn’t

- - rovermum said
  - 03 Mar 2018
    2:56 pm
Ummm, why don’t the parents just have the talk with their children. What a ridiculous waste of money to palm this off to a stranger, even if it is a Nanny. Parent your children. Talk to your children. Seriously!!

- - mom81879 said
  - 02 Mar 2018
    12:44 pm
A classic case of more money then sense I would say.

- - Ellen said
  - 02 Mar 2018
    7:59 am
Really, why do parents shy away from this ?
Think sex education should be implemented as early as possible, bit by bit. Our kids are great indicators to tell us when they’re ready to talk about it and how much they can understand.
- mom93821 replied
  
  04 Mar 2018 , 7:04 am
  I don’t understand why anyone would shy away from it either. It really is not an awkward conversation to have with your children. It is just a normal part of growing up!
- - june11 said
  - 01 Mar 2018
    11:19 pm
In SA they start sex education in the schools in Reception. I know they definitely did in 1990. They were even taught that when the baby is born his/her head comes out first. If the parents are going to be home to answer questions why can’t they talk to the children themselves. I would imagine UK schools would have similar resources to what our schools do now. They show DVDs as well as talking about it.

- - mom90758 said
  - 01 Mar 2018
    6:09 pm
Ha! Ha! But the kids are so young. What can they assimilate now about “the talk” is different from when they will be teenagers. They will probably be more interested then and have more questions. In the future will the parents hire someone again?
I remember the story of the lice. I understood that more than this one. 🙂

- - ashna9 said
  - 01 Mar 2018
    6:00 pm
These parents need to suck it up and tell their children themselves!

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Mar 2018
    3:50 pm
I think it’s better for parents to do it, but at least these parents are taking responsibility for making sure it’s done well.

- - mom206279 said
  - 01 Mar 2018
    2:35 pm
No no no no no no no. It needs to be with parents or someone your kids know very well. They need to know they can come to you with questions and can trust you to give good information. If a stranger had have come into my home and started talking about sex with me in great detail at that age, I would have frightened at the very least. Its creepy letting a stranger in to do this.