I tried controlled crying with my now toddler and it didn’t work he would eventually just throw up or jump out of his cot. We ended up going with the second option of extending his bed time which worked a treat

Controlled crying just never felt right to me.

Each to their own.
For me I loved cuddling my babies. My eldest had problems and was full on so when I had my other kids they were like dream babies compared to my first so I enjoyed every moment…even on the tough days and those sleepless nights. I was lucky though as i didnt have to worry about going to work. I could rest when my kids rested.

I used controlled crying with my first. He was 9 months old and I was about to go back to work and I was not getting any sleep as he would wake every hour and then it would take me nearly 2 hours to get him back to sleep and this would go on all night. We were both massively sleep deprived. Ever since we went down the CC path he has been a brilliant sleeper. It only took 3 nights of CC for him to get the idea that we weren’t jumping every time he cried and that he should just sleep!

Each to their own but there is no way I could leave my baby to cry in distress. Babies are solely dependent on their parents to keep them feeling safe and secure. Allowing a baby to cry im distress, feel abandoned is going to make them shut off to those feelings as they learn noone will come when they need comfort. Babies do not cry for no reason. If you’re going to have a baby, look after it properly. They need nurturing. Stop hating on babies for being babies. They cry to communicate – learn their language

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  • • mom90758 replied
    • 25 May 2016 , 1:16 pm

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  I think the same. If my daughter cried, I “needed” to be with her and comfort her. Her needs came first for me. I never let her cry and I think that’s also one of the reasons why she is so self-confident.

I wasn’t too keen on it at first but now my 1 year old sleeps very well.

Babies cry for many different reasons, food,wet,ill,tired,hurting etc but also crying is them learning to use their vocal cords. A quiet all the time baby would worry me.As it is a normal process, I feel. Glad they are doing serveys on it and hope right conclusion reached

I wish I had done this, my 21 month old wakes numerous times a night

If you let them cry for too long their throats get red and would be sore. A baby doesn’t realise that and has no way of telling you anything is wrong paprt from crying. It also probably makes them thirsty as their mouths are open. Then they nned fluid to wet their mouths.

I tried it once. That was enough for me. But every one is different

Worked for my first hasn’t worked for my second. Ah well

I was so desperate with my first baby, I tried controlled crying. It didn’t work, he just didn’t stop crying

i cant use this method it just is not me!

Fortunately I didn’t have to use this method, and I doubt I could have.

I still think it depends on the child. I have four children and used control crying for one which just refused to sleep and it worked. Yes it’s extremely hard and as a parent I found that I was getting very anxious and feeling very guilty but luckily after a week he managed to get into a great sleep pattern.

Six children ranging in age from 3 -33 years old and have used controlled crying on 5 of them. The one I did not use it on was a natural sleeper who slept 8 hours a night from day 7 of his life and is still the best sleeper of the lot. Yes it is hard to do it and could not do it with my husband home as he would wring. Have a grand daughter 21 months old who does not sleep well for her parents and her parents can not do it. Controlled crying was the hardest with the twins, the younger two of my children as they would try to out do each other.

I still think that letting one child cry is not good for him. I wouldn’t be able to do that.

Nope. Still can’t do it.