it is called character building. they gotta learn.

Regardless of email instead of paper the kids are going to talk, compare and even make fun of someone who hasn’t gotten an invite. Pretty much a given.

Unfortunately kids have to learn that not everyone is going to like them and want to spend time with them. It’s all a part of growing up. I think it’s more the parents who get upset about it.

when my son was at primary school the other kids had invites passed around and he didn’t get any. I don’t think he really noticed because of his ASD. He did receive his first birthday invite the year after, and one more after that. When we invited kids, my son wanted to invite the whole class.

I reckon it’s definatley parents who get upset as well as kids. If you overhear other mums talking about their kids party, you can feel a tad left out but of course you get over it knowing your kids just aren’t friends! Lol

I think it’s a little silly not letting kids hand invites out, even sillier that they can’t talk about it!! It’s definitely part of life not getting invited to everything! They will grow up one day having to learn that.

A great option for parents especially of younger children when you might need to ask questions / explain or just talk to other parents about something ….. but it’s going to be hard stopping kids talking about it afterwards or even writing about it etc. during class activities which could still make others feel left out.

this is tricky especially in this social media age

I think it’s important for children to learn early on that rejection is a normal part of life & learn to build resilience skills for life.

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  Indeed !

I can understand how it feels. I felt the same as a child and not receiving an invitiation. It’s not a nice feeling. I understand we want our kids to be more strong etc. but it doesnt change how it makes a child feel. I know because i felt this way as a kid

Good intentions… but you can’t expect that children wont talk about it. It is natural that they will be excited about the party and then want to talk about it afterwards.

At first i thought…I think for younger grades maybe. Imagine 1 kid not being invited in a class of grade 1 kids. Poor things… Id invite my entire kids class if it were grade 1 to 3 perhaps. But after they are 8years old they need to learn that life isnt going to lay out a red carpet for you every day.

Hooowever… what id there was a naughty kid. A bully. Then i guess i wouldnt want them to come so.. this is a tough one.

I find this to be stupid! Kids unfortunately have to learn that you don’t get invited to everything in life, sometimes life isnt fair!

Definitely a life lesson that you won’t get invited to everything. I can understand it from the point of view of a child though. It can be upsetting not being invited. In an ideal world, we would love to be inclusive however there are constraints such as the amount you spend may dictate the number of people invited, or the space you have may not be able to accomodate everyone.
I do feel that the school gone too far by banning invitations though.

This is just stupid! Kids need to learn that they don’t get invited to everything.

Agreed that this is going too far. If your child was the only child in the class not to get an invite then this would be an issue.

I can see some kids can get upset

Bloody ridiculous! I can’t even believe this is an article ???? Talk about taking things way too far

Oh WAY too far! My daughter in grade 1 has just studied the calendar and where important National and cultural dates fit, and importantly, when birthdays are. The kids love sharing birthdays at school and party invites are a life lesson in resilience.

I know one family that do them either by facebook, phone call or text on mobile phone if they can’t contact the people any other way. Trouble is some people have such a long facebook page list that sometimes people – including relatives are forgotten.

Yes is can be hard,but I’m teaching my daughter that you cant be invited to everything & you cant invite everyone to your party. Its hard but kids have to learn, that it is ok to miss out on things