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May 20, 2022

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The question of whether it is ever acceptable to smack a child – hitting them with the flat inside of the hand with the aim of achieving compliance – is still highly controversial.

In England, this controversy was recently reignited by the education secretary, Nadhim Zahawi, who has said that “the discipline of children should be left up to parents”.

Smacking is currently illegal in 63 countries, including Wales and Scotland. In England and Northern Ireland, though, parents remain free to smack their children.

Typically, the main argument against banning parents from smacking their children is based on respecting parents’ rights. Zahawi said that the state should not “nanny” parents about how to raise their children.

In contrast, child protection groups and psychologists argue that the decision on whether to ban smacking should be based on what is best for the child rather than the parent. They point to psychological research as a source of information on whether smacking is good or bad for children.

Research on smacking

Research has found that physical punishment such as smacking is both ineffective and bad for children’s development. Research which analysed a range of studies on physical punishment such as smacking found that, in fact, this punishment made child behaviour worse.

Often, children still do not obey parents’ orders after being disciplined. And even when they do, a punishment such as smacking does not help the child understand why their actions were wrong. This is because sometimes the discipline comes with no explanation.

Also, the child may be too caught up in their own emotions to be able to understand why their actions were wrong. In the future, the child may follow their parents’ orders because of a fear of being physically punished again, not because they understand that it is the right thing to do.

In terms of how it affects child development, physical punishment has been linked with behavioural, social and mental health problems throughout childhood and adolescence. Children are more likely to have emotional and mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression. They also have more chance of developing aggression and of engaging in risky behaviours. These effects can harm the relationship between the parent and the child and between the child and their peers.

A strong argument against the use of smacking is that children who are smacked are at higher risk of experiencing maltreatment and abuse by their parents. This is because over time it may take more and more force to have the same effect.

Stress response

Parental stress plays an important role in the use of physical punishment. When parents are stressed, they are less sensitive towards their children’s needs and are more likely to use harsher discipline, such as smacking.

A parent who occasionally smacks their child may end up smacking their child more often or using harsher forms of physical discipline when they become stressed. Smacking is an emotional response, often done when parents do not know how to control their children.

My colleagues and I at the University of Winchester conducted a study during the first COVID-19 lockdown in the UK. We asked 322 parents about their stress levels and their discipline practices.

Unsurprisingly, parents reported being much more stressed than before the pandemic. Parents who were very stressed reported disciplining their children more frequently and being harsher with them. Our findings are consistent with multiple reports claiming that the risk of violence against children increased worldwide during the COVID-19 lockdowns.

Nevertheless, some psychologists have argued that we cannot categorically say that smacking is negative for children. In some cases the studies examining smacking do so in combination with other forms of corporal punishment, such as punching or hitting. Therefore, they argue that the real effects of smacking on children’s development may have been exaggerated.

Furthermore, some claim that most research on this topic cannot clearly establish that smacking is definitely the cause of negative consequences for children – just that there is a link between smacking and negative consequences for children.

However, one finding is clear amongst the controversy about smacking. It is never positive for children’s development.

Research evidence overwhelmingly shows that physical punishment such as smacking has negative outcomes. Parents can use a range of other forms of discipline to help children understand why their behaviour is wrong. These include time out (removing a child from an environment where they are doing something that they should not do), reasoning with the child, or taking away privileges, such as removing their video game console for the weekend.

Parents should use these discipline techniques instead of smacking.The Conversation

Ana Aznar, Senior lecturer in Psychology, University of Winchester

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

  • I dont disagree with smacking but there is a big differance between a smack and a hit. Also its something that should never be done just because the parent is frustrated. I decided that I wouldr only smack if it was a seriously life and death situation. I cant ever remember smacking my children although I felt that I must have. I have asked them all and none of them ever remember me doing so. I guess I never had the need.

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  • This is an interesting article to read.

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  • Very interesting point of view. Thank you for sharing

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  • Absolutely no reason ever to hit your child! It’s abuse. I was smacked as a child and so glad I was able to break this abusive family cycle with awareness, patience and learning about gentle parenting. Children learn from your behaviour, do you want to teach them violence is the answer? violence is how you solve problems? There is never any reason to hit a child and only a psychopath or someone completely blinded to being stuck in a traumatic family cycle would think otherwise.

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  • I think it all depends on the child and the circumstances. I smacked my boys because they touched something that could have really hurt them. So what they’re saying is instead of giving your child a smack (I always did this on their hand using just my hand) when they go to touch something even when you tell them why they shouldn’t. How do you stop them then? By letting them burn themselves? So glad my boys have grown up now and it’s no longer an issue.

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  • Always resented my dad for smacking us.

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  • Some parents take it too far. I wasn’t smacked as a child but I did occasionally smack my kids. We all turned out OK…..I think

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  • A very controversial topic!

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  • I broadly don’t believe in smacking – but would use it in very limited circumstances. Eg, a child too young to reason with touching something dangerous.

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  • Very controversial topic


    • Indeed. I had a chat with my friends about this yesterday and there were so many different opinions just between us

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  • I think unless you are in someone’s situation when it gets to that point, you don’t get to judge. There is not a blanket answer on this one. And while I don’t support abuse, I’ve seen child abuse and I don’t believe a smack in some instances is child abuse or necessarily impacts behaviour, etc.

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  • “…..Parental stress plays an important role in the use of physical punishment. When parents are stressed, they are less sensitive towards their children’s needs and are more likely to use harsher discipline, such as smacking…..” Therefore – supporting parents is a great way to support our communities and enable people to make better choices. ie; not smacking

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  • Time out and removing a child from the environment lol

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  • Just because you are the parent it does not give you the rights to hit your children! It’s a lazy form of punishment and is teaching your child that it’s ok to hit someone if they are doing something wrong.

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  • Yeah I’m not a fan either and the research is always tipping in that favour

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  • Discipline that causes physical pain is not on!

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  • I agree it can cause more problems long term and have them copy behaviour or think its ok. I think there are so many ways and that shouldn’t be one.

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  • A very controversial subject and not done with much empathy. There has to be discipline somewhere along the path of life, and not one thing will work for all. Rearing children is very hard at times and I wish everyone all the best while they are doing it, especially while the children are very young.

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  • I don’t smack my kids, I never have. I personally believe there are better ways to parent.

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  • I agree that smacking can have a negative impact on various aspects of the development of the child. There are much better forms of discipine. Also when we want to teach our children not to hit and kick, bite or punch others, we should give them the right example

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