From the story told, She didn’t allow the announcement to be made, it was blurted out without her consent. And I don’t understand the big deal, it was a bridal shower not the actual Wedding Day. By the time the Big Day rolls around, unless she’s about to pop, everyone will have forgotten about it. And even, if they haven’t does the Bride expect to be the centre of attention the entire day and monopolise everyone at once?

You are not in the wrong. That belongs to the person who announced it and your friend who is getting married shouldn’t let it ruin the friendship you both had either. I think the person to apologise to Abby for making the announcement when it wasn’t her news to share anyway

Not the place to have an announcement made at someone else’s celebration. Not to mention it wasn’t even their news to share

You absolutely we not in any way in the wrong. Some people just have no filter and should really learn to read the room. Jane is in the wrong for not accepting you didn’t want a drink, pushing you for a reason (no one should have to have a reason to not drink or do anything they do not want to do), and secondly for announcing YOUR pregnancy let alone at someone else’s baby shower.

I understand your friend getting upset, but she really should have called you and spoke to you over the phone or in person. I find it really bad taste to SMS someone with such sensitive issues like that. Of course she knew your would have felt awful.

That’s really not okay, especially when it’s not your place to make that sort of announcement.

Definitely shouldn’t be announcing someone else’s pregnancy. That’s just plain rude!

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  • • mom486197 replied
    • 02 Sep 2024 , 9:29 am

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  I agree, it is no one’s place except the person whose news it is.

She wasn’t the one that announced it and her friend should be able to see that. Announcing someone else’s news is not on and that person should be the one apologising.

Such a sad situation. When you lose a baby you want to wait until after 3 months to announce your pregnancy. Very unfair this was announced at her friends bridal shower.

She didn’t do anything wrong. Its a private matter and Jane should not have pushed her into basically revealing it. I’m also disgusted with Jane trying to force her to drink when she had already declined. Just because you like a drink doesn’t mean that everyone else does but that’s beside the point.
I suggest she contacts Abby and explain the circumstances to why she didn’t want people to know and how upset she is with Jane for doing this.
But she is the victim here and shouldn’t feel that she is in the wrong though I can understand why she feels this way. Abby needs to have words with Jane not her.

I would be explaining in person to your bride friend so she can see how upset you are that Jane blurted this news out without your permission, do hope all turns out OK for everyone.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 31 Aug 2024 , 7:26 am

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  Yes it would be good if she can have an open and honest conversation with Abby. And it would be good if Jane would have an open and honest conversation with Abby and apologyze too

You poor thing. You have done nothing wrong at all. I’m so sorry someone made that announcement for you. That was so wrong, insensitive and entitled. She has ruined your moment and now caused a further rift with the bride. How dare she.

You’ve done nothing wrong at all. Jane announced it not you and I’ve never understood why people get upset about other people’s good news on “their” day anyway.

Go and see your friend and explain the situation to her and let her know that you wouldn’t have announced your pregnancy that way. The other person is the A** *ole

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 30 Aug 2024 , 8:02 am

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  Yes it would be good if she can have an open and honest conversation with Abby. And it would be good if Jane would have an open and honest conversation too with Abby and apologyze

It sounds like circumstances lead to it and it was 100% not her fault. If Abby wants to be mad at someone it should be Jane who literally dragged the secret out of the mum to be.

Not happy Jan(e). It was poor form. But Jane was also half cut. It’s a different position to be put in. Hope it all works out for you and the bride. Good luck.

In very bad taste.

It was ill mannered – but by Jane, not the pregnant woman.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 29 Aug 2024 , 7:49 am

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  I agree. But why than does the article state that the pregnant woman is wondering if she is somehow in the wrong for allowing the announcement to be made. Seems to me she turns around some facts in her mind.

It’s crazy, someone else announced it without permission from the pregnant woman. The bride to be should really be happy for her friend and be a bit more understanding of the situation. The other thing is discussing this in person would be better than texting.

She didnt ALLOW it to be announced at all. The announcement was made without her approval or wishes.
As someone else has said this person is very rude and I feel immature. You do not push someone into drinking. NO is just that and needs to be accepted. If you wish to drink then go ahead but do not push others. Grow up.

I think it is rude for adults to push people to drink if they have clearly said they don’t want to whether they are pregnant or not. I think the lady was out of line and should have kept her mouth shut, it was none of her business to get involved and really should have just worried about herself and not pestered this lady into telling her.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 29 Aug 2024 , 5:57 am

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  I agree; NO is always NO and people need to show respect.