In February 2012, I met my partner online. At first, we decided that a long distance relationship would be too hard (me being in Australia and him being in England). We agreed that being friends is better than not having each other in our lives. At the end of June, being “friends” was beginning to prove difficult and on July 1st we decided that we should at least TRY a long distance and completely online relationship.
At first, it was easy. We were still getting to know each other really, we were falling in love and we were happy. But we wanted more. We wanted to meet. So he worked until he had enough money to purchase a flight to Australia, and I worked on saving enough money to do things while he was over here.
He got a one year, working-holiday VISA and once that was all accepted, he booked a flight. We agreed that if we met in person, and things didn’t “spark” like they did online, then he would travel Australia and we would remain friends. His flights were booked for September 2012! I was young at the time, only 19 so my mother agreed to take me to the airport to meet the guy I was sure I was in love with. Seeing him walk out was the most nerve racking moment in my life. I saw him and I knew. I knew he was the one for me, the only one I wanted to spend my life with.
I was working pretty full on when he came, but things began to slow down after about a month which was great because it meant that I got to spend a lot of time getting to know everything about him. Where he grew up, his family members, what he wanted his future to be like (it involved me!, it sure was nice to be wanted)
I’d never been in a relationship like this before. So loving, so kind. I honestly didn’t think that men like this existed. Apparently they do, and I got super lucky enough to find him! In January of 2013, we had planned our first holiday together and we went to Sydney to explore the Zoo, the Aquarium, went on a harbour cruise for dinner and did a few other amazing things.
To be honest, at this point our relationship I didn’t care what we did, I just wanted to spend time with him. Being with him was easy, I didn’t have to work on it, I didn’t have to try to impress him, he just loved me. He loved my curves, my cleanliness, my little obsessions. He loved ME. And I loved him.
Shortly after (and a little unexpected!) in March, we found out that we were going to have a baby! And while the news was exciting it meant that we didn’t have long to look into options of him staying. Due to living in a small town, the time for him to leave came before we had time to do much. We looked into getting him work (nobody was hiring close enough to us), we looked into other VISA options, but they cost money that we just didn’t have.
He went to all doctors appointments, ultrasounds and we spent as much time talking to our baby as much as we could before he had to leave. The last thing we wanted was for him to leave, but if he didn’t, he could get in a lot of trouble and he wanted to come back to Australia to live without any added worries or troubles. So he left, when I was 7 months pregnant.
It was hard giving birth without him, but thankfully I had my amazing mother to help. He’s missed a lot, and I feel terrible about it. Our daughter is now 16 months old. He’s never met her. They see each other on Skype every day. Our daughter and I are going over to see him in August and she will finally meet her daddy! We can’t stay for long, 2 months is the most I could afford.
Our relationship is still strong! Going on 3 years, and so happy. We’re completely in love, couldn’t imagine life without each other. And while it’s hard being in a relationship where you can’t hold, or kiss your loved one, we’re making it work because we know our future is something to look forward to!
I just wanted to share our story, let others know that even when times are tough in a relationship, remember where it started. What brought you to this point now. What made you fall in love in the first place. The look in each others eyes when you found out you were pregnant! Many people struggle, we have tough relationships. But there is always a way to continue on, a way to feel good even in a completely unbearable situation. Friends and family are a big thing, let them help, they want to.
Posted by OscuraSmiles, 18th April 2015