baby or no baby that is the question

9 Comments

I am a step mum to a 7yr old girl.
my partner wants to have more children.
i would love to have a baby with him as well.
here is the catch.
i have mental issues, depression, anxiety, ptsd and a history of self harming.
i am afraid that with the history of post natal depression (as well as other mental illness) in my mums side of the family that i would not be able to handle pregnancy and being a mother to a new baby.
My partner has the same fears.
Maybe i shouldn’t have kids at all.

Posted by stepmom107932, 29th December 2014

9 Comments

- - june11 said
  - 20 Mar 2016
    6:47 pm
This is a big decision only you and your husband can decide on. You need to talk to your GP and physcologist or physciatrist if you are seeing one. If you are taking any medication you need to find out if you need to change it before you get pregnant if you can. You may have to be weaned off one batch of medication, introduce a new one and see how well they work.

- - pakeko said
  - 10 Jan 2015
    9:01 pm
Would love to hear of you felt about to share about what you did in the end

- - mom58476 said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    9:30 pm
It’s good that you are looking at everything before just jumping straight into it, more people should be like you. Maybe seek medical advice to see what options there maybe, it might also give you a clearer mind to decide and be content with your choice

- - mom94125 said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    5:52 pm
talk to your doctor and counselor. if you do decide to have one, make sure you have the support during and after pregnance

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Jan 2015
    10:52 am
This is a reasonable fear, but with help you might be ok. Talk to your GP.
- mom93821 replied
  
  05 Jan 2015 , 4:39 pm
  I agree; seek help if you have doubts.
- - mom93821 said
  - 30 Dec 2014
    3:27 pm
Maybe talk this through individually and with your partner with the support of someone with knowledge of these issues; they can often help with planning and strategies.

- - rupa said
  - 30 Dec 2014
    11:26 am
Wow that’s tough! Have a long talk with your doctor they’re probably best able to help you. If you do go ahead be really honest with your midwife and ask for all the help you need .Goodluck
- mom57522 replied
  
  12 Jan 2015 , 7:09 pm
  Yes, if you go ahead with a pregnancy be as honest as you possibly can.