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After a almost a decade abroad it was time to come home. The day I met my (now) husband I told him that I was going home (to Australia), and almost every day since, at each turning point: the day we decided to enter a relationship, the day he convinced me to move to his home country (and bargained Australia would be next), the day we moved to another country instead, the day we got married, the day we planned kids etc. IT was only heavily pregnant and severely at risk of postnatal depression that got me back here. For the first SEVEN Years we were together, I was miserable and wanting to go home. Now that I am home, he has been FIFO for over a year… but has made MY life hell. I put my life on hold and did everything he wanted for seven years. But according to him, I am the selfish one, I am the one that gets everything that they want, and I am the one that USED him to get kids.

Who is this man?

Posted by mom70876, 8th July 2016

6 Comments

- - mom90758 said
  - 10 Jul 2016
    1:04 pm
I’m sorry!

- - mom70876 said
  - 09 Jul 2016
    8:53 pm
Ladies, thanks for your comments. To tell you the truth I am just tired. I’m not sure that counselling would help, and he is really not open to it at all anyway. Also, how do you talk to someone who has convinced himself that what he thinks is the truth (that I used him for example, and that we always do everything that I want). It’s just so frustrating and circular. I just need to vent it. Thanks, again.

- - mom93821 said
  - 09 Jul 2016
    8:35 am
Maybe counselling would be helpful for you or for both? A counsellor may help to navigate through the issues and your future direction. Best of luck.

- - mom90758 said
  - 08 Jul 2016
    5:18 pm
This is so sad to hear! You expect your husband to be the person that most in the world can understand and support you. But clearly he’s not that person right now!
Are you going to try to work on your relationship, to see if it can be saved?
- june11 replied
  
  08 Jul 2016 , 8:49 pm
  It sounds as though she compromised for 7 years. Is he willing to compromise??
  He must have wanted children or he would have taken precautions. She compromised when they moved to a different country instead of Aust. as they bargained/agreed. Counselling may help provided both of you attend separate sessions before combined ones.
  - mom90758 replied
    
    09 Jul 2016 , 4:45 pm
    
    That’s true. There is surely some problem that needs to be addressed there. I just find it quite sad when couple splits and decide to follow different paths. On the other side I realize that often that’s the only “healthy” solution, that will allow to bring back some happiness into their lives.