I am a survivor - Real Mum story on MoM

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I am a survivor of domestic violence. It may not seem like much but a lot of people don’t understand the heartbreak that comes from being hurt physically and mentally from the person you love so dearly. I tried for so long to make the relationship work because I loved him so much. After 6 years I had enough so finally left and myself and my kids have never been happier. Friends and family ask me if I wish I’d left earlier, but you know what no I don’t, because I wouldn’t have my amazing children nor would I be the person I am today. I am strong, I don’t get hurt easily (mentally) and as I have had to deal with a lot worse then any problems that arise now. I am glad I did leave when I did and that when my children are all grown up they will know that I left and that they neither have to put up with any kind of abuse from a person who is meant to love you. Anybody out there who is in a violent or controlling relationship, it is no good for you or your children (if you have then) I know from experiance that you will not leave until you decide you have had enough no matter what anyone else says, and I know it is very hard to try and disconnect that love so you can move onto to a happier life, but I can gaureentee you that you can do it, and you will be happier and so will your children.

Posted by keeleynme, 13th November 2014

12 Comments

- - mom112217 said
  - 13 Mar 2017
    3:23 pm
I am so glad you finished it as you know it will never get better,wishing you a beautiful future for yourself and your children.

- - mom113055 said
  - 01 May 2015
    1:42 pm
stories are great

- - blockmount said
  - 18 Nov 2014
    11:05 am
Doesn’t sound like much, wow what you have had to go through that definitely sounds like alot to me. I am lucky enough not to have experienced domestic violence but I take my hat off to you for putting up with it for so long but also finding the courage to leave when you did for the sake of yourself and your children. People decide to change their life when they feel strong enough to be able to do so. Its wonderful you are now living a beautiful and happy life with your children, I wish you all the happiness life brings.
- mom70796 replied
  
  19 Nov 2014 , 9:12 pm
  What a beautiful affirming comment.
- - Mrsjharding said
  - 18 Nov 2014
    7:57 am
thank you for sharing your story, your a very strong person.. even for those not faced with a violent relationship, its always good to keep in mind how very real these situations are around us..

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 16 Nov 2014
    10:56 pm
Thank you for opening up and sharing this story. I hope that anybody reading this in the same situation is helped by this story. You are so right – people don’t leave until they have made that mental decision to go, for a variety of reasons. I personally have a white ribbon that I wear proudly on a pink and white jumper that I have. Stopping violence against women, and that includes mental abuse is so important. Having been a victim, and I have never said this on this site it is a cause close to my heart. I have often day dreamed about changing my profession and doing a course or degree to help me help other women. Sadly I’m caught up in day to day life and bills and full time work and caring for my son full time. I hope one day to go down this road, but for now it is just amazing to hear success stories of empowerment like yours. xxx

- - BellaB said
  - 16 Nov 2014
    10:12 pm
Congratulations on your courage in making a new life.

- - mikiajai said
  - 16 Nov 2014
    8:36 pm
So proud of you for standing up for you and your kids and yes unfortunately you had to stay longer than needed but you have your wonderful kids to show for it, now it’s your time to enjoy them and nurture yourself, I’ve been in a similar situation lucky I had no kids involved so could escape it as soon as it arouse as I deserved better, I now have 3 beautiful children and a wonderful husband who treats me like gold. You will find a man who will treat you how your meant to be stay strong.
- keeleynme replied
  
  16 Nov 2014 , 9:23 pm
  Thanks
- - keeleynme said
  - 16 Nov 2014
    1:17 pm
Thanks and yes that was my hope that it would give someone else the courage to leave, cause I know it is hard. The sad thing is I also no they won’t leave until they are ready no matter what anyone says, my parents and friends were telling me to leave for years.

- - cherz said
  - 15 Nov 2014
    6:39 pm
Hi keeleynme, thank you for your heart felt and very personal story. It is so very wonderful of you to post this, as I am very sure it will help someone out there either now or later on. I have never been in this type of experience, but can only imagine what you have gone through. I have a daughter in her early 30’s and pray this never happens to her. Thank you again for caring about other woman and giving your input and congratulations for having the courage and strength to leave the relationship. Love and many many happy times are wished on you and your children.
- keeleynme replied
  
  16 Nov 2014 , 1:18 pm
  Thanks and yes that was my hope that it would give someone else the courage to leave, cause I know it is hard. The sad thing is I also no they won’t leave until they are ready no matter what anyone says, my parents and friends were telling me to leave for years.