R U OK? Is not a Facebook post - Real Mum story on MoM

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I am ok, but to be honest other than my close family, no one really checked in on me or ever checks in on me. I have or maybe it’s had a large circle of friends who were there at the beginning but over time it becomes less & less.
I didn’t choose this, there was an accident- not my fault & it’s now 5+ years, I’ve lost my whole life & ability to live the amazing life I had worked so hard for before. It’s taken many years & this year is better than last, but there is still so much I can’t do.

But I’m strong, so for 3 years I denied I had depression, until the day I had a break down & couldn’t stop crying. Nope my friends don’t know about that, cause they haven’t asked, when they haven’t visited.

I love seeing everyone’s life on Facebook, it helps to keep me connected, but when they put up the R U OK? messages I wanted to slap every single 1 of them. As if I would answer on FB, ‘No, because I have seen your face in 18 months!’

Posted anonymously, 12th September 2015

6 Comments

- - mom94125 said
  - 29 Dec 2015
    5:04 pm
lol yeah social media has many displays of redic!
“look at me posting about how much i love animals and the world” and then the next post is
“look at me eating LAMB!”.

SO SUPERFICIAL LOL. I KNOW PEOPLE ARE BUSY BUT WALK THE WALK!

- - BellaB said
  - 12 Sep 2015
    5:08 pm
Yes, I am in a similar situation. It can be tough.

- - ashblonde said
  - 12 Sep 2015
    4:07 pm
I learnt from a old friend the other day that she wasn’t OK when she replied to another person’s post with what she was going through & it made me realise how we all drift apart but it is important to be there for friends in need. Trust your old friends will hear from you too.

- - mom81879 said
  - 12 Sep 2015
    3:33 pm
Lol, so true. Just put it on Facebook to make it look and feel like they’re a part of it. When one of their nearest and dearest is suffering and they don’t bother to check in. I would’ve written your comment on their posts, shake them up,a bit. I do hope you are ok

- - mum4107 said
  - 12 Sep 2015
    2:21 pm
True friends should be there through the good and the bad. Unfortunately it’s not always the way.
People finding out I have depression has pushed some people away in my life
You will make new friends and things will get better. Keep going you can do it

- - mom90758 said
  - 12 Sep 2015
    12:10 pm
It’s terrible when people post those messages and they don’t actually care about listening to the answer. What I also noticed is that people are happy to be around you in the good moments. But when things start to be difficult, just the “real” friends stick around. All the others, one by one, disappear. I find it very sad.

I’m sorry for your depression. Did you talk to your GP about it?