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2 weeks ago my kids age 6 and 8 were terrible as in disrespecting and being so selfish. I had all their presents hidden. I spoke to my mum saying that ive seen a lot of articles about cancelling santa but stil celebrate christmas due to their behaviours.mum told me to have a good think about it cos she knows i always give too much. It was based on the whole year not just few weeks. It was normal to hear i would like for christmas but not i want, i want this or that. It droved me insane i basically repeated the words back to them what they said. Told them they can not expect everything not everyone children out there would be getting a present so be thankful. Last year christmas my son was terrible was pretty much ungrateful would have been the proper word about him. A week of taking dairy and wheat from their diet ( was seeing a natural path about their behavioural and skin condition) taking them to the rspca to donate blankets and $5 each to the pet xmas tree, choosing a present for each other from savers shop which was first to them. It made them realised helping others makes people praise them for their thoughts and kindness in return and shopping in a 2nd hand shop was so much fun. (Their diet made some improvements in their behaviour too). I was getting worried what i would expect on christmas morning, i did leave 4 presents from santa along with presents from each other how my kids would react wither it would be selfish. Christmas morning has came and it was the best morning ever. The kids appreciated what they were given, some brand new and some 2nd hand presents. At the end of the day i feel relieved but one thing i did do, i took out some presents and its for their birthdays next year. I learnt and will be learning not to give all the time and let the kids learn to get it by saving. Respect others and work as a team player. We did well today. My new resolution for 2015, do not buy toys unless its their birthdays or xmas except for clothes if needed if my kids have a growth spurt. If they want something, they will have to work for it and do not ask nanny!! Haha.

Posted by jacqbeckett, 25th December 2014

7 Comments

- - mom113055 said
  - 07 May 2015
    2:59 pm
storys are nice

- - mom94125 said
  - 02 Jan 2015
    9:33 pm
yeah i will make the “sub” present from santa and my kids know that i gave them the “good” one.

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Jan 2015
    10:51 am
I think it can be hard to be restrained at Christmas. I’m still working on it,but improving.

- - mel1 said
  - 28 Dec 2014
    9:59 pm
I’m glad your Christmas day worked out well with your children. Its so important to teach them to be grateful and thankful for what they have and what they get. I was shocked this year to be asked for the receipt for a lovely present we bought a family member. So rude and ungrateful. Shame she has not learnt to appreciate the thought and care that went into the choice of her gift. Well done for teaching your children while they are young.
- mom93821 replied
  
  29 Dec 2014 , 6:28 am
  I don’t blame you for being shocked about the receipt!
- - mom93821 said
  - 27 Dec 2014
    5:52 am
Thanks for sharing your story and I am glad you had a good Christmas day. Santa always leaves little presents here; there are so many children around the world!

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 27 Dec 2014
    12:34 am
I did something totally out of the ordinary this year. I admit I don’t use a lot of the parenting practices that my parents did, but I sort of incorporated a bit of what they used to do into xmas this year. I was prompted to do so by reading an article about how a mum was giving only minor present from Santa and the others labelled from mum and dad. Her reasoning behind it was that how can you explain to children that Santa can give only the bare essentials like socks etc to some children, whilst the children up the road can receive iPads, bikes, trampolines and literally thousands of dollars worth of items. I thought back to when I was a child and thought “gee wizz my parents used to do that all those years ago.” So this year I put the larger present from myself and a couple of the smaller ones and some items from Santa. I feel happy with my decision, although I know this school of thought is not for everyone. I love your ideas about making your children understand the spirit in which giving is meant.