i feel for the both of you and just wish this didn’t happen! There should be strict laws for the monsters out there – like never getting released ever!!! and i agree that you should have counselling to, it is too much for anyone to deal with

You are a strong mum and don’t give up. All the best for your family.

love and hugs to you sweetie,

poor you. it may be a good idea to get some help for yourself too to help you get rid of the heavy burden you are carrying,

I am so sad for you, and wish I could help. can your local GP help you? can you get counselling, as people who are the support person also need support.

Oh you poor thing, it sounds like you’re really struggling. I wish there was more than words on a page that I could do, but know that there are people out there who feel for you, and if they could they would help you, even with just an ear to listen.

Stay strong and know that things can and will get better. Sending you love and prayers.

It is great that your husband is getting help. It sounds like you need to get some too – I know what you mean about some days being very hard.

Your husband is very lucky to have you, you sound amazing!

I’m sorry you are going through this. Its so sad that your poor husband has sufferd the way he has at the hands of those monsters.

I’m wondering if the support group he goes to has an affiliated support group for partners. There must be one out there as so many people are suffering the way your husband and you are. It would do you wonders to have people in your predicament to talk to. I wish you and your husband well.

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  Have you tried this suggestion? I’m sending out a prayer for you.

All the other mums have given great advice and I agree with the idea of you seeing someone as well. Also I feel you need someone that is positive, happy and fun to be with as a friend. Positive people raise us up so i do hope you have a friend or at least met someone that can be fun to be around with at times. You need to look after your-self as well as I feel you are putting all your energy into your hubby and children. I am sending love to you and even more strength, you are a very special lady and I pray all will be better soon. Seek out help in all areas when needed and remember there is always someone to turn to when some days are darker.
Wishing happier times ahead. Love and Light cherz.

I commend you for having the strength to reach out and talk about your story; Sometimes we just need someone to listen even if we don’t have the answers it can help by just talking about how we are feeling. I hope you find the support you need to help you through this.

Its so good that you are using this space as a support and outlet. It sounds like you and your husband have had some horrific things happen and im so sorry for the both of you to have gone through that. You are not winging at all and its commendable that you recognize the burden discusing your feelings with your husband and older children may put on your relationships. I work with many children and adults who’s lives have been affected by sexual assult and I am constantly in awe of the strength and courage they show in working through so many complex feelings, anxieties and emotions. When you do feel ready some sort of family counselling / narrative therapy may be really successful. In saying that, keep up working on you and yourself. You are so important to your family and any progress, open communication and healing always starts from within. Love and light to you and yours xx

Wow, what a strong lady you must be for supporting your husband (and thinking about him first) even though you are suffering yourself. I agree with the others and think a counsellor of psychologist would be a good idea for you. Sometimes it’s just about getting someone you trust to open up to.
Please do NOT think you are whinging or whining as your feelings are real and to have the courage to get your words out there is a great start to trying to sort out your feelings/thoughts. There are plenty of supportive mums here for you!

I am so sorry, that your family is going through this. I don’t have any words of wisdom but please know that people are thinking of you <3

let me start by saying you are strong and don’t think your not and what your husband has and is going through is horrible but you might find it very helpful to you to speak to a psycholigist for your self for some one to talk to as it seems you have no one. They can not prescribe drugs but if they are good they will work with your doctor if they feel you need something to help cope. You may not feel it is working after a few visits but than one visit you will notice the difference and make sure it is one you click with and if you don’t click ask your doctor to send you to another one. I saw one for 4 years after our accident and I thought it was a waste of time but he got to know me well and if he noticed something was wrong he would ring my GP in front of me even when it was things like non stop vomiting cause by the accident. He was great and I am the type if I don’t click I don’t go back and he help me alot and listened to alot of my whinging and complaining which is what I needed

When I finished reading this, I just wanted to give you a great big hug because I think you need it. I feel so sorry for you and your family to be going though all this painand suffering.. You are such a strong woman standing by your husband – not many women probably would. I agree with some other comments seeing a counsellor or psychologist might help, as you have no one else to turn to. I can only hope that things will improve for you and your family some time soon.

Wow. What an emotional story. Good on your for reaching out. As others have said, I think you really need to speak with someone yourself about how to cope with daily life when you’re walking on egg shells. I think the women on this site are supportive and this is a safe environment, but most of us are ill equipped to really give you the help you need. I wish you and your family the best and hope you find happiness in your life.

You are a strong lady & obviously a very supportive wife to your hubby, so do you think you could be included in seeing his counsellor or psychiatrist at the same time as I’m sure that will help you both get through these dark times. Wishing you happy times ahead, your family deserves it.

I am sorry for what you are having to go through and having no one close to talk to! I don’t know what you are going through but do think it would be best for you to go talk to someone for your own reasons. You need to stay in control of your feelings and if you find you can’t talk to anyone close to you, the next best thing is a councilor! Hope things get easier as life goes on!

I think it would be great for you to go to a counsellor to help you work through your own feelings. Probably a psychologist would be better. Psychologists as you probably know usually have specialties or areas of interest that may be suitable to your situation. It is very difficult to cope with trying to help somebody else through their depression when you struggle with it yourself. You seem like an extemely strong woman. I’m so very sorry for the lifelong pain the both of you have had to go through. I wish I could say more to help you.