Even though my child is a baby, my partner and I feel that it is necessary thing to discuss with each other how we are going to handle this, I feel like talking of experiences (NO JUDGMENT), my partner was a heavy pot abuser for many years and myself I used it a few times, with alcohol I had a drink for the first time at 13 and drunk first time at 14, I actually became a really bad alcohol abuser a few years ago, this lasted maybe a year and a half, thanks to meeting my gorgeous fiance. He used pot from 8yrs of age and alcohol from I think 10.. We both also smoke (quitting really soon!! Yay!) which neither of these ages are acceptable to me, I think about it and think wow we were just kids!!! I know there is a high possibility in today’s society that drugs and alcohol will be an influence at some stage in life, but I really don’t want him ever touching drugs (mum things haha), although recognising the possibility we find when it would be age appropriate and or when he seems to have a slight interest of sitting him down and discussing what our experiences are, considering I have mental illnesses and it’s a family trait on both sides, plus addictive personalities are high in both families, we want to explain the good, the bad and everything in-between, using both experiences as a way to show him how things can plan out, that it could offset his triggers for mental illness. But also I think it’s important to let him know, no matter if I think it’s a bad idea or not that he can always talk to me, if he does something I want him to tell me and if he’s planning on it I want to know where and when.. Just incase of horrendous experiences that I can help him as I had some but couldn’t confide in my parents. Have you explained it to your children, or have an idea how you would? I would love to hear what everyone is going and or have done relating this topic. Also what age do you plan on talking about it? Or when did you talk about it?
Posted anonymously, 19th June 2015