What’s done is done. You had your choices, you made your decision. That’s all there is to it. No good reason to debate if it was ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ after the fact. You don’t need anyone’s validation or approval. Only your own conviction. It’s important as a parent to stand strong in your actions. This situation will blow over. A lot of Mums miss a lot of things.. but your stepdaughter will always appreciate you showing up for her.

I think you did the right thing and this has been taken out of context. This poor girl was going through a life changing moment and wanted to be at home in her comfortable location. I think the step mum did what she thought was right given the circumstances considering the mum and dad were both unavailable.

Wow what a situation this has turned out to be. You did nothing wrong because your husband told you to go and get her from school. She originally called her dad and because he couldn’t get to pick her up and her mum couldn’t be contacted you were the next person on the list. So NO you didn’t do anything wrong. If you ignored your husbands instruction and left the daughter at school and something bad happened to his daughter that would have been worse. Mum is just pi**ed because she has been made to look like she didn’t care about her daughter. Good on you for caring about your step daughter.

It sounds to me like the real mum was not being a mum at all. First she wasn’t answering the calls and then she wanted to stop a solution being met. Notice how the daughter isn’t calling her mother for help? I think the real mum needs to take a bit more notice and put her daughter first.

Oof this is a hard one. Reading about how the steo daughter was in so much pain I would say it wasn’t an overstep, it was helping her. If the mother wanted to be a part of this she should have dropped everything to go and pick up her daughter from school, not leave her in pain.

Oof this is a hard one. Reading about how the steo daughter was in so much pain I would say it wasn’t an overstep, it was helping her. If the mother wanted to be a part of this she should have dropped everything to go and pick up her daughter from school, not leave her in pain.

If i was ever in the same position, I’d like to be first to speak to my own daughter about something so important. A school should be equipped with dealing with this and she probably shouldve asked the girl’s mother if she wanted her help in picking up the step daughter before doing so.

I’m not sure about overstepping but the mother wanted to sort this out with her daughter as it’s an important step in a girl’s life and her mother would want to talk to her and allay any fears the girl might’ve had. Plus, the school seemed to sort things out and help her. So I’m in two minds about you overstepping. I can understand the mother’s attitude too as it’s an important part of her daughter growing up. The mother shouldn’t have been so rude but I can understand. I’m thinking you may have taken it upon yourself to get the child when in actuality there was no dire need. So, if you’re thinking you’ve done the wrong thing and feeling guilty about it, I think you know that you have. Otherwise it wouldn’t bother you.

I’m not sure about overstepping but the mother wanted to sort this out with her daughter as it’s an important step in a girl’s life and her mother would want to talk to her and allay any fears the girl might’ve had. Plus, the school seemed to sort things out and help her. So I’m in two minds about you overstepping. I can understand the mother’s attitude too as it’s an important part of her daughter growing up. The mother shouldn’t have been so rude but I can understand. I’m thinking you may have taken it upon yourself to get the child when in actuality there was no dire need. So, if you’re thinking you’ve done the wrong thing and feeling guilty about it, I think you know that you have. Otherwise it wouldn’t bother you.

I re-read this and couldn’t actually see where the biological father had asked the step mother to pick the child up. I read that he was stuck at work and the step mother asked about picking her up. It seemed to come from the step mother. The school had already dealt with the situation from the sound of it …. pads and helping her out… assisting her autonomy. Later it said the child initiated the ‘i want to go home’ request and that is where it all hinges for me. Who decides that a child should go home – the school, the parent, any approved pick up person, the child? That determines the overstep.

Based on the information in this article, I don’t think the step mum overstepped. Her husband asked her to pick up the child from school. I don’t know what else might be going on between these parents, but I would think that the child’s wellbeing is what is most important.

I don’t think this mum over stepped. I couldn’t imagine being at school the first time it happened, let alone being only 10 years old! I was a lucky enough my mum let me chuck a sicky when I was feeling a bit off and it happened.
It doesn’t say it here, but I think it is significant what the mum was doing that she couldn’t get to the school. But regardless, making a child wait all day when they are in pain and probably confused is never a nice thing to do.

No I don’t think you overstepped a line since your husband and the biological dad of your stepdaughter told you to go ahead and pick her up.
You tuned in with your stepdaughter and understood her needs and wants, whilst the biological mum didn’t, was absent and unavailable to pick up her daughter.
Maybe your husband can contact his ex and explain he gave you permission to pick your step daughter up.