When I look in the mirror - Real Mum story on MoM

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When I look in the mirror.
I see all these fantastic posts about mums loving there post baby bodies and to be honest I’m jealous. I’ve had 4 kids worked my butt off to move that baby weight and thought once I reach my goal weight would feel what they do but no I’ve been at my goal weight for almost a yr and I still cringe when I look in the mirror. I still see huge excess skin around my stomach that i hide with high waisted pants,my once perky nice dd breast have deflated to a saggy c cup and don’t even get me started on my bum and thighs I’m currently watching it jiggle all over the place while I do hiit training on the treadmill I’m kinda glad the sweat I’d burning my eyes so I can’t see properly.
This is my daily life. I workout for a bit (eg6mths) realize it’d not helping stop then do it again.ive done weight training, work out videos, followed diets everything and still nothing can unstretch my skin or reinfkate my breast apart from plastic surgery and let’s be truthful when you are raising kids who has that kind of money. I know my partner loves me for me but I don’t.
I want to be one if those women I see posting sharing their tiger stripes but every time I take the photo determined to put it up bit I look at it and cringe and i just cant share it.
I know I should be proud and I would never take back any of my kids I just struggle to come to terms with my new body.
I hope one day I can be like the other women but for now I’m just trying to accept me.

Posted anonymously, 4th January 2016

4 Comments

- - mom94125 said
  - 05 Jan 2016
    11:16 am
yeah i totally understand. i agree with changing those thoughts. if the kids leave home, you will have some money to save then. try to be positive and look to the future. many other mums know exactly how you feel and let’s try to be thankful for what we have acheived with our bodies i find that i see things that no-one else does lol. don’t be too hard on yourself darl!

- - clairejay said
  - 05 Jan 2016
    8:40 am
I’ve been in your shoes. I don’t have a perfect body especially after having children. In my family, I have a sisters and cousins who are lean and fit post baby. I really hated the way I compared myself with them. I really hated the way my body wasn’t what I wanted it to be and how it jiggled and didn’t fit into my pre-baby clothes the same way. But then I had an epiphany. Life’s too short to be worried about my body – I’ve been worried about how my body looks for more than 30 years. It’s tiring. It’s just a body and as long as it’s healthy and does what it needs to do who really cares what it looks like? I decided to do something positive for my health and finished the I Quit Sugar 8 week program. I loved it. It made me feel positive about what I ate and what my body was doing. I noticed I lost centimetres by not eating sugar but really, the biggest thing I got out of it was that I felt really healthy and strong. There are still areas on my body I’d prefer to “edit” if I dwell on it but I really don’t think about it much anymore. I think “reprogramming” my thoughts have really helped too. All the best for you – I wish you well in your journey and hope you can find some peace with your body. (PS: you’re amazing – that body of yours made and delivered little babies! That’s really the most amazing thing on this earth in my opinion!)

- - mom93821 said
  - 05 Jan 2016
    7:21 am
Sorry to hear that you feel this way and the changes to your body can be hard to adjust too. Maybe speak to a counsellor about how you are feeling about your body and your self image. I will never have the same body and it is something that I am happy with, but obviously it is different for everybody and I do hope you can find some resolution. Just know that you are beautiful regardless of the ‘body’.

- - mom165081 said
  - 05 Jan 2016
    12:12 am
I am sorry to read that you hear this way. Despite the hype, most of us a very far from perfect. The main thing is that you are healthy, happy and resilient. Your family will love you just the way you are.