Working mum guilt syndrome - Real Mum story on MoM

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Yes, I’m a working Mum. Yes, I like my job. Yes I like spending time with my kids but I’m just as happy to drop them off to go back to being Working Me 3 days a week. But i still feel so guilty! My guilt manifests into over compensation and on my days off I volunteer in my sons classroom and bake fabulous food and take them to the library and park to try and justify going to the job I love doing. Problem is, between work taking my time and the kids taking my time, there is really no time for just ME and I often feel I dont deserve Me time because I have made this choice to be a working Mum so all my ‘free’ time belongs to my kids as compensation. My kids love me regardless and I hope I show them that a job means responsibility and sacrifice which is an important life lesson. Plus there is more money for Mummy’s shoes so a happy Mum makes for a happy family

Posted by lozeuro, 13th October 2013

10 Comments

- - mom93821 said
  - 20 Jan 2015
    9:27 am
Thanks for sharing your story.

- - mom57522 said
  - 08 Jan 2015
    12:38 pm
Shoes! I miss wearing pretty shoes.

- - jodie80 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    10:16 pm
we all have 2 work to survive. im sure they are proud of you

- - rogue82 said
  - 17 Oct 2013
    12:56 pm
I feel the same guilt returning to work do I understand, it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job and you are a great mum xxx

- - eliasjaypelenise said
  - 16 Oct 2013
    2:37 pm
No one should feel guilty to be a working mum

- - suzmuzz said
  - 16 Oct 2013
    12:27 pm
I work 3 days a week and I understand the Mother Guilt. Even when you know you are doing the right thing it still creeps in there and makes you question it. At least you are aware of it, and aware that you over compensate. But as the other poster said, don’t forget to take a day off for yourself sometimes.

- - aunty joc said
  - 15 Oct 2013
    4:55 pm
Like you I worked 3 days a week from the age my son was one. It isn’t always easy, You don’t need to justify liking work, it is a great way to connect with other adults. Do take a day off for yourself once in a while. It does you good to just be, even if you go catch up with an old friend.

- - missmilf09 said
  - 14 Oct 2013
    2:32 pm
what a great story.

- - sanjipanj said
  - 14 Oct 2013
    10:19 am
I think you have it worked out great. You have 3 days a week working outside of the home, perhaps spend one of your 2 days doing the classroom etc thing & the other day put yr feet up & read a good book, take a long bath, go out for lunch & have a glass or 2 of whatever alcoholic beverage you desire or all 3. Don’t feel guilty, what for? You need to look after number one first, yes you. I understand the feeling of dropping children off to go to work, like you I worked 3 days a week when mine were younger, enjoy it now
- june11 replied
  
  14 Mar 2016 , 2:10 pm
  You can take your time doing household chores too. e.g. you ca have a few short ‘me’ times while the washimg machine is working where you would otherwise be rushing around doing as much as you can and exhausting yourself on alternate weeks and do what you want to do the other one like extended “me” time, shop in peace, meet your friends for lunch, coffee or even a picnic.