YELLING AT THE KIDS - Real Mum story on MoM

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how horrible and how much of a bad mum I feel like everytime I’ve yelled at the kids (no obscenities, just unnecessary, point not getting across, gives me a headache sort of stuff that clearly is not working). My girls are not terrors or even excepetionally”naughty’ kids, turns out mum is probably extra tired at the moment, quite run down, getting crook, has an overcomplicated life and is not keeping her cool very well. Truth is, in public I’m actually a great cool, calm and collected mum and my friends praise me for it but why do I yell at home…

Well, my husband (who works downstairs so hears what really goes on during the day) has obviously noted the recent change to my volume and to his credit (very very brave and slightly naive of him) emailed me a link from a very wise blogger.

If you yell at the kids and feel bad about it have a read of the below link and other parts of her blog. I already feel better having read this and am going to start my own personal anti yelling orange rhino challenge because I’m sick of feeling post blow up regrets.

http://theorangerhino.com/10-things-i-learned-when-i-stopped-yelling-at-my-kids/

I hope others get a little something out of this too!

Posted by claret, 13th April 2013

6 Comments

- - june11 said
  - 23 Jul 2016
    6:44 pm
Sometimes If they are being yelled a lot, they tend to “switch off” and not listen. They appear to be defiant

- - mom176887 said
  - 07 May 2016
    3:56 pm
Wonderful that it is working for you. I noticed a change in the children when they started school. They began responding ONLY when I raised my voice. It turned out their classroom teacher shouted. They seemed to get used to the idea that if adults didn’t speak passed a certain volume then it wasn’t worth listening. Horrible experience to see how our household had to change. To this day if I don’t speak “loud” I’m not heard and also if I’m not “aggressive/firm” enough in my tone. I was quietly spoken before but since school I’ve had to up the volume 10 fold.

- - mom141765 said
  - 04 Jul 2015
    5:39 pm
Thanks for the link. I feel exactly the same when i yell at my mr 3. He’s not particularly naughty but i find myself with little patience sometimes. But like you I’m cool calm and collected most times.

- - mom113055 said
  - 20 Apr 2015
    2:43 pm
good nice story

- - jenniw said
  - 16 Feb 2015
    2:32 pm
Thank you for the link.. I can’t wait to look at it as I do the same (and feel guilty about it too).

- - mom57522 said
  - 26 Dec 2014
    4:02 pm
This is something myself and hubby could use.