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A few of the little girls in the neighbourhood recently dropped by and we were all chatting about different things when one of the little girls pipes up with an exclamation of bullying. I didn’t want to scare her off talking or make her feel uncomfortable so I kept listening and making appropriate sounds. I asked had she told anyone else and she said she’d told her sister but was told to keep it a secret or the sister would get in trouble as it’s her friends little brother causing the trouble. I made her promise me to tell her Mum and that she was welcome to come and talk at any time and gently told her that sometimes secrets are not good. We have since spoken and she took my advice telling her Mum and the problem was worked out apparently. I’m glad. It made me have a quiet word with my own daughter about secrets and the right and wrong times to keep them. Have other MoMs experienced anything similar?


Posted by rox_rocksbabe, 26th September 2013


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  • Sound advice.. I think you did the right thing and it’s worked out well

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  • I’ve told both my girls that there are no secrets from mum, EVER and that they can come to me about absolutely anything, to never be afraid about getting in trouble as we can work anything out :)

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  • I’m glad that little girl took your advice

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  • Bullying is so hard to deal sith, glad this little one had you to talk to

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  • Well done, I am so proud of you and think you are such a wonderful mum. I posted a story recently about Bullying and how a woman in her late 50’s hung herself due to bullying on social media and also around 3 weeks before we lost her, a 15 year old girl, also committed suicide by hanging herself in the local park.

    Bullying is awful, my kids were victims, I was also bullied as a teenager because my father was a policeman, and when I was younger because I was overweight. People can be so cruel, so to have you be there for that young girl, it gives me faith that hopefully if everyone did what you did, bullying will be stamped out.

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for caring.

    xxx dee

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  • that is very helpful of you. You certainly seem to have done the right thing and hopefully now, she will be confident in speaking up


    • i just found this story again. i just want to tell you thankyou for standing up for this girl. you made a big difference to her quality of life and she will always remember what you have done for her! the world needs more people like you!

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  • It is sad when they have to keep secrets, at least she trusts you enough to come to you.

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  • That’s really sad that she was told to keep quiet about it. I hope she did talk to her mum about it.

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  • Kids need to know that they can confide in you in if they have worrying secrets to keep or if their friends have worrying secrets. They need to know they can come to you if the need to about any topic. You did the right thing and its good you talked to your own daughter about it. It sets up the communication lines which you will need as she grows.

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  • not yet but i suppose it will be soon

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  • My kids are always telling me secrets

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  • no secrests a good secret

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  • We have often talked with our 2 girls about “good secrets” and “bad secrets”. Good secrets are exciting like Surprise Parties, Mothers Day and Fathers Day pressies and are absolutely fine to keep whereas Bad Secrets are the ones that make your tummy feel fluttery and uncomfortable. It’s helped keep the channels of communication open!

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  • I haven’t but I think you did a wonderful thing. You are such a lovely person

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