Im afraid that kids just have to learn that life wont always go their way. There is no need to invite all the kids. Teachers shouldnt get involved.

I don’t think you should invite whole class…

I don’t believe that someone should have to invite the whole class to their party. However, if a child is handing out invitations this should be done discretely because I wouldn’t want to upset any if the kids who wouldn’t be invited.

I never thought of it because my twins are only two. I have a few teacher friends. I’ll ask what they think of this.

For the first year of school – we invited the whole class. After that we knew the parents and the kids enough to be able to be more discreet with the invitations.

I think it is wrong to hand them out in front of the class!

I think invitations should be handed out privately, not in front of everyone. I wouldn’t want to upset a child because they weren’t invited.

So I’m torn on this. I do think you do not have to invite an entire classroom. I did however encourage my son to give out the invites outside of class to those he wanted to attend. The teacher does not have to deal with this, it’s a combined effort. Kids need to understand they won’t be invited to everything and that’s a conversation I would often have with my child. But a little empathy as well of not showing off the handing out of invites.

I was always that kid and it was very difficult

Yep! I was one of those kids that didn’t get the invitation.
I didn’t tell my parents, but it definitely upset me. I bottled it all up, became shy and withdrawn.

We always hand them out to parents at pickup or drop off time.

I have the parents phone numbers and message them . There is no way the whole class will come.

In the younger years ie kindy/pre primary we always invited the whole class but as they got older they just invited their friends but I always told them to make sure they were discreet when handing out invites.

You don’t have to invite everyone. My son is having his 6th birthday this month and invited 8 kids (there’s 20 in his class). He didn’t want to invite everyone because he finds big group hard. I spoke to the teacher and she said that she’ll put them privately in each student bag, easy done.

Don’t see why your child can’t invite his/her five or six friends to their birthday party privately without a written invitation. That way no-one gets hurt

Unfortunately schools don’t hand out parent emails to other parent. It would be a massive Break of privacy laws. We’re still not allowed on site at my kids school so I wouldn’t even know what the kids look like. It will be up to the teacher to help hand out invites, (my child is 5). Teacher doesn’t like it? Take it up with the education department or the OAIC!

I honestly don’t know when my kids hand out invites- in class or in the playground. But in all honesty, why should a kid feel upset if someone who’s not even their friend is having a party. No one has to like everyone. It’s part of life.

Birthday parties are always difficult, Who to invite, and how to be discrete. Most people are on the school parent list, so it is great to either email or text the parents. In Prep, it was such an issue, I invited the whole class. It was expensive, but it was hard to be selective with such a tight knit group. Very expensive choice but couldn’t see any other way around it.

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  I did some whole class parties, but just had it at a local park so the only expensive was food. The kids had a ball, everyone happy

Sometimes sending electronic invites isn’t always easiest, especially if you don’t have other parents numbers.
Kids need to realise they won’t always get invited to every party. In saying this discretion also should play a part

Needs to be discretion. I can gaurentee atleast one of those kids had their feelings hurt by missing out on an invite