Doesn’t it feel a little hypocritical that we all want our children not to lie to us, but we lie to them!
When you think about it we potentially deceive our children a lot:
- “Put that tooth in the glass of water and the tooth fairy will come and leave you some money!” – Well, yes there will be money, but it will be coming from mummy’s purse.
- “If you keep pulling that awful face the wind will change and it will stay like that!”- I pulled a lot of faces as a kid and I think I look normal!
- “If you sit too close to the TV you will get square eyes!”- My brother and I spent many hours sitting of an early morning with our noses pressed up against the TV watching ‘Thunderbirds’ and last time I looked, my eyes looked fine.
However what scared me the most as a kid was the classic, “If you tell the truth you won’t get into trouble”……yeah right, I always knew what really was to come if I did tell the truth!
Well, maybe they are not lies so to speak, they are fibs, a tongue in cheek falsehood, a bluff, a tall tale or a ‘white lie’.
I have been told that if you tell a white lie, you are actually lying to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. That is a nice way to put it.
We lie to our kids for a number of reasons; to protect them, to help them, to stop a tantrum, for make-believe, to make them happy; to avoid saying ‘no’, to get them to eat their vegetables……. the list goes on.
Whatever you choose to call it or however you say it, the majority of parents lie, for their own reasons.
Do you think there’s any harm in this kind of ‘lying’?
Or will our kids grow up saying: “Oh my mum tells so many white lies, she could ice a wedding cake!”