"The Baby Name My Friend's Chosen Will Lead To Her Kid Being Bullied"

Would you be brutally honest with your pregnant friend if she excitedly revealed the name she planned to call her baby, and you didn’t like it? This woman says she couldn’t bite her tongue, and it caused a huge blowup.

The woman says her friend found out she was expecting a few months ago and is thrilled she’s going to be a mum.

“I’m happy for her and think she’d make a good mum, but there’s one problem; she wants her baby’s name to be unique and special, but the way she’s going about it is terrible,” the woman explained.

“What I mean is, the name she plans on using is godawful. If it’s a boy, she’s going to name him ‘Daynger’ (yes, spelled like that to be unique), and if it’s a girl, she’s going to name her ‘Tinkerbelle’. I wish I was joking.”

The woman wanted to be a supportive friend, but felt she had to speak up about the expecting mum’s name choices. And she wasn’t gentle.

“I asked her if she was 100% sure, and suggested if she was dead set on those names to make them the kid’s middle name. When she asked why, I told her flat out that the child would get bullied if she named them that.”

“I know just how shitty kids can be; I got bullied for my name, and changed it when I was 19. She got really upset and told me I was being unsupportive and I was a shitty friend. She’s been ignoring my texts ever since, and it’s been more than a week. I’m starting to feel kind of guilty over what I said.”

What are your thoughts? Did she do the right thing as a friend, or should she have shut her mouth? Let us know in the comments below.

22 Comments

- - Mum2archer said
  - 27 Dec 2023
    9:00 pm
It isnt your choice to tell her the names are awful – it is her baby, and unless she asked you, then you need to just bite your tongue and let her make the decision

- - mom265671 said
  - 04 Dec 2023
    10:27 pm
although it might not be tasteful for many, ultimately its her choice. let her decide and if she wants to change it down the line, so be it

- - meedee said
  - 03 Dec 2023
    9:06 am
If she asked your opinion on the names then yes…its right to be honest but if she was just sharing her choices with you then its best to just hear her and keep your thoughts to yourself.

- - BellaB said
  - 02 Dec 2023
    11:28 pm
It’s a bad name choice, I agree.

- - mom489452 said
  - 02 Dec 2023
    9:43 pm
So the Mad cow is giving birth and will call it Tinkerbell
I have not laughed this much for ages

- - Frankiielot said
  - 02 Dec 2023
    10:27 am
Wow, those names… I wouldn’t name my kids those but I think there is a growing trend for names that are “different” so maybe they won’t get picked on because no one knows what a normal name is anymore…

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Dec 2023
    3:34 pm
Those are not great names but maybe she wasn’t as gentle as she thinks in raising it.

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 01 Dec 2023
    12:51 pm
They are very out there names. I think she did the right thing in saying, she may just have been able to word it differently. Hopefully they will reconnect and the new mum will forgive her friend.

- - mom160270 said
  - 01 Dec 2023
    12:21 pm
I think the friend had good intentions and was thinking about the wellbeing of the unborn child.

- - Ellen said
  - 01 Dec 2023
    8:41 am
Not my choice to name her child, up to her and her partner. Personally I would refrain from comments, since it doesn’t matter what I think or like.
- mom93821 replied
  
  02 Dec 2023 , 5:31 am
  Exactly and respect must be shown to friends. Likes and dislikes are indeed personal. Valuing a friendship means showing respect for differences which includes choosing names. We are all different and that is a wonderful thing.
  - Ellen replied
    
    02 Dec 2023 , 7:27 am
    
    So true, we’re all different indeed
- - mom93821 said
  - 01 Dec 2023
    6:03 am
Names are such a personal choice and I would never comment.
- Ellen replied
  
  01 Dec 2023 , 8:42 am
  Yes I agree with you
- - ChiWren said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    10:49 pm
If they are a close friend, I would politely and gently tell them it might not be the best option to go with. Then drop it. No pushing or being unkind. End of the day it’s their child, and some people won’t change their minds no matter the reasoning.

- - Mum_Em said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    9:48 pm
Definitely not common names. I probably wouldn’t have felt comfortable saying something but I’d be concerned about how the names would be perceived for their whole lives!

- - alrevedup said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    8:32 pm
I think if you felt comfortable enough to say that, your friend should know you well enough to expect honesty. Having said that, people expect random names and spelling these days. My daughter picked a name for a boy when she was pregnant and everyone was relieved when she found out she was having a girl.

- - TraceyGail said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    7:55 pm
I think I’d have to say what you said too. Hopefully you are not the only one who has and she will come around.

- - mom465683 said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    7:32 pm
It depends. If she is a really good friend I would say something. If she is just someone I know I would bite my tongue.

- - mom462038 said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    6:30 pm
The names aren’t the best and kids will be cruel. I’d be inclined to say something

- - mom486197 said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    5:39 pm
I have to agree although kids can be just plain mean anyway. I was bullied as a kid and would never wish this upon anyone but sometimes kids will find anything they can to bully another kid.

- - mom443421 said
  - 30 Nov 2023
    3:55 pm
Looks like her friend is ready to launch the next generation of action heroes with Daynger and Tinkerbelle!