The importance of letting go

We tend to associate Spring with cleaning and cleansing and this also extends to letting go of unhelpful energy.

‘Holding on’ is physically, emotionally and mentally draining. It blocks the calmness and inner tranquillity that we need to move forward in our lives.

One of the reasons we hold on rather than letting go is that we want others to know that we have been wronged and want that hurt or wrong doing recognised.

However, ‘holding on’ just creates more suffering. ‘Holding on’ is a form of self-punishment, by not letting go, you keep the hurt alive.

Letting go releases us from the pain of past hurts and anger; it gives us clarity and space for love, which helps us to move forward.

How to let go:

First of all decide what it is you want to let go of. It may be an emotion, a fear, a thought, a loss, a person, or a behaviour. Begin with intent, and ask yourself what are you going to let go of? “I let go of anger I have towards my ex-partner.”

The following are some tips to help us with ‘letting go’:

Accept responsibility for your own life, your happiness, health and actions; and allow other people to do the same.
Acknowledge and own the emotion ‘I am angry’ by owning the emotion it is your responsibility, the power has been given back to you!
Connect to and feel the emotion (allow yourself the time) by thinking, writing, drawing, etc. this helps the emotion complete the emotional wave cycle.
Physically release the emotion; gentle exercise, walking, yoga and deep breathing can all help.
Energetically release the emotion – Reiki, energy healing, colour therapy etc. helping to release the emotion from your ‘being’.
Explore the lesson behind the emotion; ask yourself was this a soul lesson I needed to learn; or was this a repeated pattern I needed to become aware of?
Let go -Understand the lesson – Feel the freedom, calm and peace within.

Remember your spiritual support network is always there to help – God, spirit, universe and angels etc. according to your beliefs. Trust in their ability and willingness to help.

Accept and appreciate that we are all human; be kind to others and to yourself.

Do you have any more tips for ‘letting go’? Please share in the comments below.

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33 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 30 May 2022
    10:54 am
I am actually very good at letting go of things. This doesnt mean that I just forgive everything that people do against me but it does mean that I dont let it eat at me and I get to decide if that person is worth another shot and worth keeping in my life. I have someone on my facebook who is constantly talking about being positive but then always going on about how hurt they are over family members being so mean and nasty to her. Honestly if its a constant then those people are not worth it. You need to just remove them from your life without anger and move on.

- - mom101628 said
  - 08 May 2017
    9:04 pm
Agree with all your points – and once you have let go, you feel so much better, taller and healthier. Thanks for sharing.

- - mom165081 said
  - 20 Nov 2015
    4:03 pm
I think this sounds like a great thing to do – lets help teach our kids to do the same and do some if these things with them too!

- - JessyJade190490 said
  - 03 Nov 2015
    1:42 pm
I am still learning to “let go” of my mother… I have not ever really had a relationship with her. I haven’t seen or spoken to her in over 2 years. I just keep telling myself that I do not know the woman at all, so she can’t possibly be family. She has her own life and I have mine. Some days it can be hard, but then I think of the past and it makes it so much easier to be rid of her out of my life.

- - mom160421 said
  - 02 Nov 2015
    10:50 pm
I agree with the points made in this article. Letting go is very hard to do when you’ve been wronged, but it is not healthy to hold on to that anger.

- - mom94378 said
  - 02 Nov 2015
    9:27 am
When I saw the headline I thought this was about flatulence. Thank goodness Seriously, cool article, thank you.

- - EllenG89 said
  - 30 Oct 2015
    3:21 pm
What a great read full of some wonderful tips

- - donnamcdiarmid said
  - 26 Oct 2015
    12:26 pm
This is a fantastic article and so spot on

- - silvialee said
  - 17 Oct 2015
    2:48 am
it is easier said then done sometimes

- - 4littlemunchkins said
  - 12 Oct 2015
    10:43 pm
I certainly find it incredibly difficult to let go.
- mom94125 replied
  
  14 Oct 2015 , 9:33 pm
  yes but we have to try and not beat ourselves up, darl
- - Toni Rowland said
  - 11 Oct 2015
    10:11 pm
Thanks so much for sharing – making think about things.

- - mom113055 said
  - 06 Oct 2015
    4:05 pm
what a great place to relax

- - Missey Grace said
  - 03 Oct 2015
    9:34 pm
Good advice here, I am doing the talking more and more (to myself) to think out loud these days and it helps.

- - ella12 said
  - 23 Sep 2015
    2:45 pm
I totally agree with this. Not letting go can be bad for you.

- - levismumma said
  - 23 Sep 2015
    2:14 pm
Great tips. Thanks for the article.

- - rovermum said
  - 23 Sep 2015
    10:55 am
I once read or heard about physically washing your hands (or air washing them) to wash or wipe away what you want to let go of. Say it out loud in the action of ‘washing your hands’ of someone or something. I did it with my in-laws after years of trying to please them whilst they manipulated and treated me badly, and it has worked.

- - aliceou said
  - 23 Sep 2015
    7:37 am
I totally agree with all the points.

- - mom57665 said
  - 23 Sep 2015
    1:17 am
Great read and all is so very true!!

- - Melanie said
  - 22 Sep 2015
    10:12 pm
It’s so important to let go.

- - Melanie said
  - 21 Sep 2015
    10:12 pm
Some great advice here. Thanks.