This is not something that I ever had to deal with but I can imagine that its a nightmare especially if the couple is at war with each other.

Hmm, not to sure about this idea.

its good that there are services to help people.

I’ve often said we should be teaching kids how to manage relationships better – it’s at least as important as sex ed!

Wow hope it is something I never need, but something so many could use

This looks like a useful service but hopefully as a last resort. Thanks for sharing.

I think for some people this would be a great idea as alot of people end on bad terms and this sounds like it would help

well i think that this would be a useful service but i think that it should be used as a last resort, not just because you feel restless and need a change. I think that people should try living together first and seeing if the basis for friendship is there. i think people think that 2 years is some kind of a milestone ie if we have liked each other for 2 years, it is time to get married and then that whirlwind ensues. five years later with a kid or two and you both have changed ergo divorce. People should take their time and not rush into marriages for whatever reason. See counsellors etc before you get married. Let’s take these divorce rates down. Marriage is for life not for now.

Thanks for sharing this article

Very well said MoM57340, and MoM90758 I’m sorry for what you went through as a teenager. Parents should always put their children’s needs before their own.

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  They should but often it’s exactly at these moments that they show how egoistic they are. 🙁

I wish my parents had gone through such a counselling when they separated. I was 14 years old at the time and it looked to me like the adults were just thinking about themselves. Without thinking about the consequences on us kids.
A separation is really hard. It’s even harder if you don’t get any support.

The reality is that close to 50% of all couples divorce or separate. If and when that time comes, I think we can all agree having an impartial party in our corner, helping with logistics and emotional support while saving us on legal costs is a GREAT idea!!

Only a person who has been through a relationship breakup can truly understand the benefit of using a separation specialist. It was not my choice to separate after 20 years of marriage, it was foisted upon me. By end in 2013 I was at an all-time low after 18 tortuous months of trying to rebuild what was once a happy marriage. Making decisions about my future alone was daunting. When I read a magazine article about Act 4 Tomorrow I knew this was what I needed. They supported me emotionally while keeping me moving in a forward direction, helping me maintain respectful communication with my ex and get out the other side with my integrity intact. I have become a stronger person thanks to Act 4 Tomorrow. Their services are wide ranging from helping you work on your relationship, make the decision to stay or leave, financial settlement, divorce and teaching you about healthy relationships and what to look for in a partner. This is the new era of separation – let’s make going to court to settle a thing of the past.

Can’t belieive this is being contemplated.

That would be horrible to go through..

Pleased I don’t have the need for this service – but it’s said that this service is needed at all.

Lke gs

Thankfully I haven’t separated. This is very interesting though

Interesting concept at a highly charged and emotional time for couples. Somewhat sad that someone would talk to a ‘specialist’ about a break up before their partner. I would hope couples would seek couples counselling before this step.

Didn’t even know they existed, so I wouldn’t have sought one out. I know people who are dealing with separation and child access through a professional. They’ve been split for a year and the arguing us still happening. It’s so sad, especially for the baby