My Grandmother always taught me to “start as you mean to go on” and that has stood me in good stead. Right from the start after her Grandmother passed she should not have allowed her Mother to speak to her in a disrespectful way. By allowing this it has become her new normal. You can still support someone through their loss without allowing them to treat people in a nasty manner.

I can understand that her mum was upset about her own mother’s death, but the temper tantrums and bad behaviour were attention seeking. Some people are just nasty, selfish and love the attention, I would have been tempted to tell her to shut up, grow up and not ruin the day.

I understand it was horrible for you and no doubt embarrassing but you have to always remember you only have one mother. Once she is gone there is no coming back-try to forgive and move on.

Maybe she should wait a couple of weeks before visiting her Mum. If it was me I would wait to see your her Mum broached the subject about the wedding at all. You can tell her you were disappointed about what happened at your wedding. It will be interesting whether or not she comments. Maybe you could suggest that both of you go to a grief counselling session.

Oh that’s a bit sad to hear i’d be shattered if that had happened.

Yep, some people just can’t stand not being the centre of attention or seeing other people happy – tip don’t let them ruin a special day; you’re just giving them what they want if you do.

I suppose knowing the people in your life and what they are like – you should know what to expect.

A lot of the time, but not all the time, there’s is one family member or friend who can upset the occasion. These things can happen on stressful occasions like weddings, bridzillas can come out too

Ahhhh wedding days. Yes, someone always has to ruin them. In my case, both sides of the family. I have a narcissistic sister who can’t handle things not being about her. She ripped all my nails off (to bleeding point) and threw hot coffee in my face two days prior because my Dad wasn’t walking me down the aisle (long story, and my choice). My Mum begged me to still have her at my wedding and I appeased my Mum, as I always do. Sister arrived with noticeable hairstyle, red earrings, red lips, red heels in the shortest WHITE satin and lace mini dress. One guest asked who the hooker was and was surprised to learn it was my sister!!! And then there’s the father-in-law who has to ruin every major event in our lives, fighting with family members beforehand so that two of our loved ones didn’t turn up.

I totally understand where this bride is coming from. On our wedding day we received a phone call from my half sister to say that her husband had beaten her and she needed us to pick her up and take her to our mother’s place. We had to leave our wedding reception and pick her up and take her to mum’s. We found out the reason he’d hit her once (which I don’t believe is right) because she tipped his meal over him. It was a casserole straight off the stove and so he chased her. We had to pick her up from the Police Station and then the car wouldn’t start. She refused to get out of the car so I had to push the car in my wedding dress with her 5 & 7 year old children wanting to help. My husband was pushing from the drivers door ready to jump in when we got speed up. Never spoke to her after that.

I can understand grief but it’s been over a year there’s really no excuse for this behaviour at ur daughter’s wedding

Life is too short to have people in your life that stress you out even if they are family

it is ok to cut toxic people from your life. Mum might need medical intervention, maybe anti depressants though

Hopefully the Mum wises up to the upset she has caused and puts an end to it, even if it is too late for the wedding.

Sad that they have a relationship like this but hopefully they can work it out.

That sounds horrible, our family hasn’t ever had any wedding problems

No family member ruined my wedding day, but I di wish I had had the courage of my convictions and not walked up that aisle – my father knew I had second thoughts and kept saying to me ‘Walk, come on walk’, but I should have run away like I wanted. Years later when I finally left my domineering womanising unfaithful husband my dad admitted to me that every time he and mum came to visit me they wondered if they would find me in a pool of blood on the floor. Bad outcome but I have moved on to a much happier place now.

I think she’s done the right thing reducing contact with her. I wonder what her mother was like before her grandmother died?

I feel upset for this Bride, unfortunately a lot of the time family members don’t see how they treat each other

I hope this lady can sit down with her mum and talk this out. My sister stopped talking to my mum years ago and I see the devastating effects it can have on my moms side and my sister not caring as I get along with both of them. I hope this family tried to find a middle gound