What is put on that chair is not necessary. Yes, we have a naughty chair or naughty corner. It is a place to make them sit while you talk to them at their age and development level what they have done or said is not is not right and you don’t want that behaviour to be repeated. If you do it where they are moving about, they may not stay there or listen to you at all. I wouldn’t put the time on the chair itself but for a school age child I may use a timer during which time they are to sit quietly and just think about the unacceptable behaviour and how to stop themselves from repeating it. I always explain why the behaviour is not accepted. Little ones may need more than one explanation before you resort to the chair or corner method as they have shorter memory spans. One of ours started kicking soon after he started walking….and persisted for a few days. The corner was commenced and he was told each time he was put in the corner. After a few days the time spent in the corner was increased until he stopped doing it. Now he will soon be old enough to start school. He sometimes objects to having to go in the corner and has to physically put there. Other times he may know he has done wrong and take himself to the corner without being spoken to. Recently another child decided to bounce on my furniture even though he knows it’s not allowed. I told her if she did it again she could sit on the floor instead. She decided to sit on the floor anyway.

I really think this is sending the wrong message. I actually think that punishment like this is passive aggressive. Just put them on a plain chair and let them mull over what they have done. Don’t constantly tell them they are Ugly, or that there is something wrong with them.

So, what part said about kids being to loud? Or not to stand up for themselves?
Am I reading a different sentence to everyone else??
The word ugly should NOT be there but swap it for rude and i dont see a problem.
Because if you’re rude and dont listen that isnt nice, throw a fit AKA a tantrum means you have to sit in the time out chair.
Both of those things are something my kids would be punished for.

So again was I reading a different sentence to everyone else?

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  • • cherz replied
    • 04 Feb 2017 , 5:15 pm

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  I agree with you on this one.

This dreadful saying is still out there? How unfortunate for our girls in the community. Girls have voices and they should be heard. Children need to be taught acceptable behaviour and not fed silly lines about sugar and spice and being nice. Be loud and proud and do not sit in the corner. No chairs in this household. Discussions about behaviour as we want children to be heard and to listen and also to think about their actions.

I always had a problem putting my daughter in time out. What worked in the highchair was putting a stuff dog with big head to hold her in. And moving a ceramic rabbit around to show her the food. She never threw food.

I see where the chair writer is coming from. At the same time I can see where to a young child they might think that you are saying “they are ugly” rather then their words or actions were ugly. I tried to always be very careful with my words in regards to my kids. i would say “you are not a naughty girl so why did you do a naughty thing?”…it was always what they had done that was wrong, naughty, bad, etc …I clearly told them that they were not defined by the negative thing that they had done.

I think it’s another case of parent PCs going into overdrive. Our kids will mostly be influenced by what we, as parents, teach them. So untwist your knickers people!