The top 20 things NOT to say to a pregnant woman

We asked you on Facebook to tell us what the worst thing was that someone said to you whilst you were pregnant.

The result?

Many many responses from Mums all over Australia – some hilarious (OK, if you’re pregnant right now it’s probably not hilarious – but if bub is out already, you can look back and laugh – hindsight is a beautiful thing), and some just downright rude.

Here are the top 20 things NOT to say to a pregnant woman.

1) WOW you’re huge. Are you sure there is only one in there?

2) Aren’t you a little too old to be having a baby?

3) Don’t you have a TV? (when you have more than two kids)

4) Hope you don’t crap yourself when you give birth….

5) You’re having ANOTHER ONE?

6) Oh you’re pregnant? I just thought you had gained some weight

7) You must be due any day now

8) Looks like you’re having twins!

9) Well, we all know how you got into this mess

10) But you have one of each, why do you want another?

11) You look too young to be having a baby

12) Do you know who the father is?

13) Are you still with the father?

14) Are you sure you need that chocolate/icrecream/chip?

15) Was it planned?

16) Your shoelaces are undone

17) OMG I hope you’re having a c-section

18) Are you actually pregnant?

19) How are you going tubby?

Last but not least… here is one for post birth:

20) When are you due? (I had the baby three weeks ago)

Do you have any to add to the list?

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75 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 29 Jul 2022
    10:34 am
I got the “was it planned?” when I was pregnant with baby #3…..thats such a rude question to ask.

- - Blossom said
  - 14 Oct 2018
    9:05 pm
I know a Mum whose youngest is 2 y.o. She has constantly done the exercises, watches her diet closely yet still has not lost her “baby” tummy.

- - mom101628 said
  - 26 Apr 2018
    9:49 pm
I always tell a pregnant lady how beautiful she looks.

- - mom93821 said
  - 26 Apr 2018
    5:27 am
Just never ever ask any woman when she is due….never ever!

- - ashna9 said
  - 25 Apr 2018
    11:35 pm
I’d say these are all pretty much using common sense??

- - mom90758 said
  - 22 Nov 2015
    2:19 pm
The last one is hilarious!!!

- - lisa4 said
  - 25 Apr 2015
    6:43 pm
I hated that strangers touched my belly

- - regine_kong said
  - 25 Apr 2015
    10:02 am
My dad said the first one, more than once. I know he’s kidding but…. Ugh and i got number 7 numerous times when i was halfway thru first pregnancy.
Other than that i di get most of this

- - deb_gs said
  - 28 Mar 2015
    8:58 pm
I have heard the comments (mostly about celebrities) “I hope they don’t get your/his eyes/nose/cankles (fill in the blank)”.

- - mom64736 said
  - 19 Mar 2015
    4:41 pm
LOL. Yep some pretty offensive things get said to pregnant women!

- - pakeko said
  - 17 Mar 2015
    8:15 pm
Lol I think these need to be printed in every major paper

- - mom94378 said
  - 17 Mar 2015
    8:03 pm
I can’t believe that people could be so insensitive to say these things, especially number 2.

- - mom108638 said
  - 17 Mar 2015
    4:57 pm
Laughing so hard that i’m crying ….we’ve all done it!!!

- - Carmjoiner said
  - 17 Mar 2015
    4:07 pm
I heard someone ask a woman on a train are you pregnant? Her response was NO! I felt so bad for her and the imbecile who asked her.
- mom94125 replied
  
  18 Oct 2015 , 4:46 pm
  yes people just don’t have tact or consideration hey
- - serotonin said
  - 17 Mar 2015
    3:12 pm
Hilarious! I can definitely remember hearing a few of those comments at least once, haha. Thanks for the laugh!

- - ella12 said
  - 17 Mar 2015
    2:30 pm
Some people just don’t think before they speak.

- - mom67195 said
  - 10 Mar 2015
    5:53 pm
When someone who you haven’t seen in a few months walks into the room and says ‘wow, look at how much you’ve grown!’

- - GeoEllie said
  - 31 Jan 2015
    6:26 am
Hahahaha! Great list! Super amusing!

- - Newmum21 said
  - 16 Jan 2015
    7:57 pm
I had a person say “you’re too young to be having a baby” when I was pregnant even though I was 27yrs old at the time!! Also when I had my baby people asked me if it was a boy or girl and that annoyed me because my daughter was wearing a (Pink Minnie Mouse Dress ) if I had a boy I wouldn’t dress him in a dress or with Minnie Mouse on the front!!! Lol

- - mom94125 said
  - 09 Jan 2015
    6:30 pm
that is a good list and they are all somewhat offensive