Bullying is just disgraceful. Thank you for the very helpful tips.

My daughter is currently laying in a hospital with a gastric nasal tube feeding her, and will be there for atleast a month, because of bullies!!! My sweet little girl was made to feel that horrible about herself that she stopped eating. For months i didn’t know what was wrong with. Yes she is a sensitive child because of the abuse she lived through from her father, so no she doesn’t handle nasty words or actions well. What im sick of is the bullied children being punished for it and school just sweeping it under the table. Why does the bullied need to toughen up, why does the bullied need to ‘just ignore them’, why does the bullied need to ‘just stay away from them’. How about we start dealing with the individuals that are bullying!!!!
I am not standing up for my daughter, i am now fighting for her as she is too weak to fight for herself! We are on a long road to recovery and it’s my daughter that is suffering NOT the bullier. That person atill gets to go to school and see their friends, that person still gets to go home to their family ever afternoon, that person still gets to be with their family every night and sleep in their own bed.
My daughter is 13, her name is Gorgia and i am fighting the fight for her #stopbullyingnow

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  • • meedee replied
    • 04 Feb 2016 , 1:02 pm

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  I agree with you 100%
  My middle daughter had issues with a boy who was a grade older. For some reason he decided that he would tease her. She ignored his words and told me that she didnt know why he said these things and she didnt know why he called her ugly because she wasnt. I was glad that she wasnt taking his words onboard but I wanted the teasing to stop so I contacted the school which prided themseleves on their no bullying policy. They spoke to the child but then he decided to step it up and get physical. He would walk past and pull her hair, shove her so she would fall over, etc. Again I spoke to the school. They spoke to the boy again and also advised my daughter that if she saw him to walk the other way. The boy did not stop. I was phoning the school daily. In the end their response was for my daughter to avoid him. My eldest daughter was 3 grades above the bully and without my knowledge decided that she was going to seek this kid out. She found him in the playground one day and slammed him against a tree and warned him that if he dared to touch her sister again or call her names then he would be dealing with her. She held him by the scruff of the neck and said “Do you understand?” She said he was really scared and said he understood and he was sorry. That was the end of that. We never had a problem with that boy again.
  Im not suggesting that anyone do this. Im just sharing what happened.
  I do think that schools need to protect out children and bullies need to be expelled if they refuse to stop their behavior. BUT… have you eve noticed on social media sites that adults bully others online….such bad examples

  I know you have a long road ahead of you but I hope that your daughter responds to treatment and that in time she will find her light and see her true beauty. I wish you well.

I do not understand why some kids do this. It’s horrible being bullied

It’s so heartbreaking to know your child is being bullied at school, especially when the school seems to be doing nothing about it. Heartbreaking when they’re crying, begging you to not send them to school. I would wish it on no one

This is just awefully sad … My daughter had experienced it at high school but never told me until years later .. If only the bullies new how bad this can effect children maybe they would stop .. I know school put in place no bulling policies .. Not sure how successful they are though

This was such a great article, my daughter reasonly told me she was being bullied, she was too scared to tell me at first but I knew she wasn’t happy & I managed to get it out of her. We sat down & talked about it together & then went & seen her teacher which has really helpfull. She now knows she can come to either myslef or her teacher.
I had never thought of coming up with comebacks for what they may be saying to her, this is something I will have to look into.

such very great advise, if only they handed something like this out when your children started kinder

Very informative – thank you so much!

I think this is such a difficult issue to deal with. With my child I gave them permission to be assertive and talked to the teacher. I expected them to deal with the bully and not my child. Unfortunately I think bullies are protected.

We had heaps of trouble for our son the last few years at school and now it has stopped. We taught him to stand up for himself but if that didn’t work go to the teacher and finally they started listening. It is not a good thing seeing your children being bullied.

Sadly this will never stop happening! I can still remember being called fatso and four eyes!. Now the last laugh is on those nasty girls from yesteryear because now I am a slim 67 year old and they are all fat now so If they see me they can eat their nasty words from years ago! On a more serious note it helps if you have witnesses to these bullies then they cannot deny their actions. I was fortunate to have 2 lovely friends in grade 6 ,a year ahead of me and they happened to see these other girls hitting me and calling me names. Unbeknown to me I went home another way the next day to avoid them but my 2 friends lay in wait for them and ended up belting the bullies with their skipping ropes. They never bothered me after that!

Bullying is unacceptable, always report it to the school. the teacher, the principle, the deputy the councillor, give them 24 hours, then go to the next level, report it twice a day if need be, morning and afternoon, harass the principle so that they have to act on it, keep diaries, also send emails, put it in writing, keep all records, look after your child and make sure that your child knows that the behaviour is unacceptable and not your childs fault, and not to feel guilty about dobbing, most schools like to pretend it does not happen but if you are persistent they have to do something, they wont like you but wont mess you around, stand up to the bullies and the authorities, if all else fails, document it and send to the education minister, they usually act very quickly also a copy to your local member of parliament.

Such a sad topic thanks for the info

Bullying is such a damaging thing and I believe it has gotten to epic proportions, my daughter was chronically bullied and the school would do nothing, I had to remove her to a new school, I believe she is still affected by it

This is great advice as it is what I have done for my sons over the past year.
I just hope they know even though I tell them all the time that they can talk to me about anything. Even if they are unhappy with me.

My son was bullied at school over a number of years. While he shared incidents with us, we had no idea it was so serious or went on for so long. The school was not good in reporting and acting on it, even after repeated visits, so we had to move schools. Luckily we had such an open relationship with our son.

thanks for sharing this article, even I am worried about my kid, she will go to school next year.

These are great tips for parents to help and support their child during the school career. I think all kids will experience in some way be it small incidents or larger more serious ones. If parents know how to handle themselves regarding bullying then their kids are more likely to be OK in telling them what is going on at school

Schools should have strong School Policies regarding Bullying and it will be taught from Kindy right through until Year 12. I had to move school as they system failed us and the school Principal told us they had their hands tied. I just left and the problem stayed at that school. My child was safe and happy at the new school and we never looked back!

Great advice. Our school is not so good at handling this…… lucky my kids aren’t subjected to this. I have taught my kids that they have to stand up for their class mates that are being bullied!