I used to complain about this all the time. There I was with my bub in a pram and I found that I might struggle to hold a door open for an older person who would just barge on through without a thank you. The young teenage boys would always thank me. The elder people would barge through a door and let it swing behind them and never give a thought to holding it open for me where as the young teens would always hold a door open for me.

Yes there are some out there that get so angry and rude

Yeah it’s pretty sad when this happens. And really upsets the kids in my area there is an old guy that walks around and yells at kids and my 1 year old was just walking so she wants to walk in the Main Street laughing having a good time and he yelled at me saying I was a bad mum and I shouldn’t have kids I was like what my chicks was no where near him she was just laughing I was pretty upset as it makes you feel like crap

I am lucky that this has never happened to me or mine, but do think that rudeness from all ages seems to be more prevalent these days. Such a pity as we all have to get along on this one and only planet of ours. Lovely that the young lad did apologise, and do hope he will continue to show good manners in the face of adversity in the form of this grumpy old man.

I don’t think it’s fair to just label this particular incident as “the elderly” should mind their manners. This is a one off, based on a single person. The issue surrounding youth disrespecting elderly is much deeper than what your implying here. The youth consider the old boring, lacking wisdom and speak to them like kids or their mates. Seats are not often given or reserved for older people and unfortunately many of their children prefer to make money and leave their parents in care homes – when they have EVERY mean to look after them

Yes, I’ve come across some grumpy and unreasonable elderly people. It does make it hard to stay patient and civil.

Some people just want to be grumpy no matter what you say. At least the boy knows he did the right thing apologising

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  • • celebrity replied
    • 25 Oct 2020 , 10:13 am

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  I really believe its just the old school generation. They don’t really think before they speak.

I could understand the man complaining but the boy did apologise even though the bag never connected with him. Hopefully his parents told they were proud of him for using his manners.

There is this saying to “be kind to unkind people, they need it the most”…
in the end of the day we don’t know what’s going on in their lives

Awww, I’m so sorry for this young boy. But I love his response. He’s been raised well and clearly came across a grumpy old man.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Yes he’s brought up well <3

A good opportunity to model the appropriate social skills to our children and also teach empathy – maybe this older man was anxious about something, maybe his memory was not as it used to be before and he’s scared and lashing out, maybe he’s sick, chronic pain would make anyone grumpy and irritable. I would also teach my child what to say in such a situation – like apologise and move away. If the old man continues to carry on, that’s his issue not yours.

I have experienced angry elder syndrome myself many times. Oh, and I am middle aged. I have had a very angry elderly woman who decided that perhaps I wasn’t moving as fast as she would have liked and she rammed her trolley into my shins. I let the first one go. On the second one I turned around and asked nicely if she would be more careful with her trolley as she had run into my shins twice. Then she did it again, harder. I turned around again and told her that running her trolley into my shins was in no way going to make me go faster as I had people in front of me who I did not want to ram with my trolley. Well, she just let rip. Like it was my fault that I was in her way or something. I also copped an earful from an elderly woman who decided that joining the queue for the express counter at the shops didn’t apply to her and she could just go past all of us in the queue and be next. I was surprised no one said anything so I did. I very politely pointed out that the end of the queue was back that way and that she was after all of us who had been waiting. She raged about being in a hurry and I said that we are all in a hurry but we all have to wait our turn. Well, she finally went back to join the end of the queue and everyone else clapped me for standing up to her. I was polite and she somehow thought that her age gave her the right to be obnoxious and ignore decent behaviour.

Absolutely there was no need for the man to be so rude. I find sometimes people take their own frustrations out on others and a small incident can trigger peoples aggression. I hope the man felt bad about what he did when he thought about it later.

I agree wholeheartedly. There was no need to carry on in that manner and I feel for the child that he was slighted unnecessarily and did not deserve to be treated that way. I hope the young fellow doesn’t think that all old and older people act that way or are that grouchy because they aren’t. I hope the old man’s conscience is tested and he will realise what he did and change his attitude so there won’t be another moment like that to take place.

Yes I find some older people are expecting a lot they push in , speak rudely demand a lot
I got told off in the street because miss 15month at the time wouldn’t sit in her pram and was walking beside me not running off but jumping galloping and laughing and I was told I was horrible mother and need to look after my child as she was in his way of walking which he clearly could of gone around her

We really don’t know what someone is going through. He could of been on his way to the bank because his daughter has been stealing money from him…elder abuse is real. Or just diagnosed with Dementia. Who knows he might of been in pain. Or he might just have raised his children differently to what he was seeing.

Yes, I find that the elderly can be quite rude and not afraid to speak their minds.
I don’t think it’s up to them to yell at someone else’s child though. It can definitely scar them for life.
That poor child!!!

I have experienced rudeness from both young and old people … I don’t think it is an ‘age’ thing, I believe it is all to do with attitude and upbringing!

I was at the zoo when I was about 10. It was one of the first night things where the zoo had a concert or something on. The crowd was huge. I was standing with my friends when we hear this gruff voice saying “get out my way”. We looked around and saw this hunched over old lady. Her daughter told her she doesn’t need to be rude, to which she replied “they shouldn’t be in my way”. In those days it was such a rarity to see an elderly person as anything but sweet and innocent that we laughed as we stepped aside. But I agree with other commenters, rudeness isn’t just reserved for the elderly

Yes I know we are supposed to respect them but I personally know an elderly who will go full blown if offended and start lecturing with loud voice just to let everyone else stare at you and make you embarrassed even its really not your fault.