Why does it really bother you if boys don’t like sports?
Kerry Foreman, is a Mum, Psychotherapist, Writer and Speaker. She writes for Parenting Today and explains why this one question really bugs her constantly.
Kerry explains, “My son not only doesn’t play sports……he doesn’t watch them either. GASP!! I know, it’s a tragedy, right?”
“The world has no questions for him except for, “so….do you play basketball?”
“REALLY? This 13-year-old boy who could change the world has to constantly answer why he isn’t interested in sports. Can’t we do better than that?
The looks I get from other mothers when I say that I gave him the choice at age 11 whether to play sports or not…..is one of reprehension.
How dare I guide and support instead of mould him in the image that is expected for our boys.
I get it, I really do…our boys are to follow a plan set out for success, right? We believe that you get them involved in sports, they play through high school, gaining popularity and acceptance along the way. This quells our fears. Society has instilled a fear in us that if our boy doesn’t play sports, then he is uninvolved. He is clearly sitting around doing nothing.
The self-worth gained from a parent who says “you are enough” is valuable beyond measure. That parent opens the door to more. That parent learns more about their child and more about themselves than ever before.
We owe our boys more than funneling them into a system they don’t fit into. If your boy isn’t an athlete … guess what. It’s okay. They are going to be okay.
You are enough, and so are they.”
Kerry’s post attracted quite a response on the Today Show Facebook page with over 1400 shares and 10,000 reactions.
I could not agree with Kerry more on this. I have two boys. One is passionate about EVERYTHING sport. He can not get enough of it.
While the other one just shrugs and turns up his nose to any offers of joining a sporting club. He just doesn’t have the desire. While he is still only young, at eight, I continue to offer the opportunities, but in no way do we force him to join any club just because it is what boys should do.
Nope. Sorry. That is not my decision to make at all.
Give him a musical instrument and he is happy. For now anyway. Whether or not that changes time will tell.
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