Why I Never Want My Pre-Baby Body Back!

It’s tough being a new mum – there are so many changes to your world. But take some advice from a more experienced mother – you don’t want your pre-baby body or life back. And here’s why!

Hey new mama,

You may be feeling like your whole world has been turned upside down.

You might be wondering what the hell you were thinking when you decided that having a baby would be a good idea!

You might be wondering if you’ll ever get a full night’s sleep again.

You might be despairing at the fact that you haven’t had a shower in a couple of days.

You might be dreaming of eating your meal when it’s actually warm and drinking a hot cup of coffee…

A freshly made hot cup of coffee, not one that’s been reheated 5 times.

You might be missing your partner, because even though you live under the same roof, your lives are very different right now.

You might be looking at your reflection in the mirror and wondering what happened to your body.

You might be asking yourself:

Will the stretch marks stay?

Why isn’t my tummy getting smaller again?

Will my loose skin ever return to normal?

You may be thinking that things will never be the same again.

And I’m here to tell you that they won’t be.

But isn’t that a wonderful thing?

I see so much in the media about mums ‘getting their bodies back’ after having a baby. Like they ever lost them in the first place?!

I don’t want to ever get my pre-baby body back, because that would mean that my 2 beautiful kids wouldn’t be here.

I don’t want to feel like I felt before kids, because my body is so much stronger now for having carried and birthed 2 (big) babies.

I wouldn’t want to be the same person I was before kids because I’m so much more mentally tough thanks to the ups and downs of day to day parenting!

I don’t want our mums who come and train with us at our studio or online to feel like they’re missing out because their bodies don’t look or feel the same as before they had kids.

I want them to feel strong, empowered and gorgeous BECAUSE they had kids!

So, new mama, although I don’t know if you’ll get a hot meal or a full nights sleep any time soon, what I can tell you is that the kinder you are to your body – the more appreciative and loving of it you can be – the better off you’ll feel.

A little bit of kindness for all of the sacrifices you’ve made to bring your kids into the world will go a long way.

Remember, your body has produced a miracle. Your body IS a miracle.

Do you struggle with wanting your pre-baby body back? Tell us in the comments below.

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37 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 11 Oct 2023
    11:33 am
Each to their own but I would love my prepregnancy body back. I detest the sagging skin.

- - mom460689 said
  - 01 Aug 2020
    8:20 pm
I totally agree. I love my body for its amazing ability to have my three kids. I wouldn’t change it for anything!

- - Lovethecuddles said
  - 02 Jul 2020
    12:40 pm
I always wished to be skinnier and thought I would love myself more pre baby but since having my baby I love my body and myself more than ever. It has been such a wonderful experience and not only am I happier, I get my beautiful bundle of joy with it all.

- - Mum2archer said
  - 01 Jul 2020
    10:35 pm
I want my old body back, but I fear it’s long gone

- - mom418449 said
  - 01 Jul 2020
    11:00 am
What a lovely reminder. Although I do wish my hideous stretch marks would go…. I understand that they were born from my beautiful children, but they really do not give me much confidence!

- - DaffyD said
  - 30 Jun 2020
    10:04 pm
I have been waiting 3 years to find it but I fear it’s not coming back at this stage

- - tessie said
  - 30 Jun 2020
    10:55 am
What a beautiful way of expressing how we feel with our post-baby bodies. I love it

- - mom343701 said
  - 30 Jun 2020
    5:12 am
My body supports my journey and shows some of the stories

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 30 Jun 2020
    1:01 am
I have no idea of what my pre baby body looked like.
- Ellen replied
  
  30 Jun 2020 , 7:41 am
  Lol !
- - mom101628 said
  - 30 Jun 2020
    12:05 am
What your body looks like now is your new normal, and who would want it any other way? Great article that makes a lot of sense.
- Ellen replied
  
  30 Jun 2020 , 7:40 am
  Exactly !
- - shanika said
  - 29 Jun 2020
    9:43 pm
I know everytime when i see the stories of other mums who get their pre baby body back make me want to do the same. But i find it’s very challenging for mentally and always hard to follow.

- - littlehandsofmine said
  - 29 Jun 2020
    8:42 pm
I am happy that we have a little boy!

- - rovermum said
  - 29 Jun 2020
    8:29 pm
I don’t remember what my pre-baby body was like. I was on IVF for so long which changed my body, then pregnancy, etc. so I forget what was normal. Now is my new normal. And I have a human to show for it.

- - mom146810 said
  - 28 Jun 2020
    7:46 pm
I never rush in getting my pre pregnancy body back but even when I am back to my size I can’t remove the stretch marks so basically can never get that body back.

- - Ellen said
  - 28 Jun 2020
    4:11 am
A healthy mindset is a good thing !

- - mom264171 said
  - 27 Jun 2020
    1:11 pm
I’m definitely more comfortable with my body post baby!

- - Jbuttxx said
  - 27 Jun 2020
    4:45 am
Love this post!

- - Mumofboys said
  - 26 Jun 2020
    10:59 pm
Iv always had body issues and having babies has made it worse. I won’t look at myself in the mirror without feeling defeated and usually I just want to cry. Iv got stretch marks but I have a big csection scar from my darling children that I wear with pride. I just wish I could loose the weight :’(

- - mom467292 said
  - 26 Jun 2020
    9:55 pm
I love this ❤️

- - Frankiielot said
  - 26 Jun 2020
    8:43 pm
I think I want my pre baby body back because I see all of these pictures of other mums who have worked so hard to get their bodies back and it makes me depressed!
I honestly don’t have the time or perseverance to work as hard as they do but a girl can dream!