It’s very rude when families don’t show but you can’t invoice them. That’s a step too far.

Unfortunately this day and age this is all too common. I understand she is upset, but you can’t really invoice people for being rude and lacking manners.

omg, she has to be kidding, even thinking of sending those that don’t bother to reply to the invite is a joke. They never asked to be invited, so why bill them if they are too lazy and slack to rsvp. If they don’t rsvp by the required date, take it that they won’t be attending. Don’t book a venue that requires a minimum number. And those teenagers that don’t bother to rsvp need to be taught some respect and manners, a simple reply of yes or no is not that difficult.

got to teach kids about real friends and these days, everyone is so fickle. don’t send invoices, teach your kids about the big picture

Sigh. This is why you have parties that don’t involve minimums. All my life people don’t reply and only a few show up. Those people are your friends and you learn to have parties that only include the people you KNOW will show. Which is why I don’t have parties at all.

Even if she did invoice them, she doesn’t have a leg to stand on with regards to actually getting any payments! –

If she doesn’t have the direct contact numbers for the people she invited, then she has to rely on them getting back to her. Yes non replys to rsvp’s is extremely rude, it only takes a second now to send a quick text back to say attending or not attending, and most times one text doesn’t cost much! I think she has done as much as she can. Unfortunately if you go and organise a big birthday party at big costs you have to accept the risk that there is potential to loose money on it.

I hope that her daughter has a great birthday regardless of this social media attention and whatever happens she enjoys turning sweet 16!

Its definitely rude not to reply but no you can’t invoice people for it.

It is rude to not reply, I hate it!

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 14 Sep 2017 , 7:26 am

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  It is definitely rude but unfortunately some people are rude when it comes to RSVP dates and responding.

No she has no right to invoice them but people should be polite enough to response and say whether they are going or not.

I don’t think she can or should invoice. I do understand how she feels; I know I have paid for children that didn’t bother turning up on the day, and it’s so frustrating. I would phone people to get a definite yes or no, and if she doesn’t have the required number of attendees I would cancel and just hold a smaller event.

An invoice? Not sure. But I would respect the RSVP date. As extra attention, I could phone the people that didn’t reply by the RSVP to check if it’s sure they are not coming. And then that’s it. Who doesn’t reserve in time, can’t come.

It’s hard to manage this kind of rudeness, but I don’t think an invoice is the solution.

There is no way anyone can be invoiced as you would need a contract/agreement? Clearly it is rude not to RSVP but it does happen. I only ever cater for those that have manners and RSVP and those that don’t miss out!