I would like it to be discussed first before any plans are in place!!!

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 29 Jan 2019 , 6:50 am

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  Absolutely! A marriage is about respect and communication!

I would be upset too about this. The only thing worse would be the in laws turning up at the holiday place without her knowing.

While I wouldn’t mind them coming, I would want to know about it and not be surprised by it.

My husband would 100% do this and wouldn’t understand why I was shitty about it.

We travel with our inlaws quite a bit but I much prefer being just our family. It gives us time to recharge together and is much needed in this busy day and age.

Whilst a lovely surprise and I am sure the in-laws and family will have a great time together, I totally understand why she is angry – it’s her dream holiday and he was neglectful to ask her if she would mind the in laws coming too!

He needs to be considerate of her not just assume she would be ok, he needs to respect that she has a right to voice her opinion – who knows if he had of asked her she probably would have said yes – it’s just that not being asked part!

I would be furious too.

I can totally relate to how she feels.

I’d feel the same way and for him to turn on her like that says a heck of alot more about his attitude than hers. How would he feel if the roles were reversed? Probably in the same boats she’s in. What’s the point of surprising your wife if there are going to be relatives outside your immediate family unit there. Would’ve made more sense to invite her parents instead of his.

Her reaction us how I’d react to.

You can’t help how you feel about something she should be able to express how she feels as long as she wasn’t bagging her in laws.

Its their anniversary and he invited his parents?! And without asking! That is beyond wrong. So what they do stuff for you doesn’t mean they have a right to come along. The husband is a fool in my opinion

I think her feeling that she should have been asked first was fair.

One of the most important things for couples is communication, and this husband didn’t communicate his intentions with his wife. He’s also a bit childish for walking out after an argument.

I can understand her reaction…..I did exactly the same. In hindsight, after having time to think it over and have my ‘surprise reaction’ in peace, I was happy enough with the idea but it was the way that surprise was delivered that threw me. The outcome was that we didn’t go at all much to my chagrin.

What puzzles me, is that the husband clearly doesn’t know his wife enough, for making such a decision and not realizing it wouldn’t have made her happy.