By the time I was 23 I had four children – the greatest benefit was I could be part of my children’s lives growing up – could still enjoy sailing with them, horse-riding with them, going on the big dipper or down the water slides and enjoying fun things with them. My mum was 43 when she had me and I used to say she was my grandmother to the other kids who all had young mums. This young lady sounds like she is in a very settled relationship so if I were her I would do what I wanted and not worry one little bit. I am watching one of my children at 50 trying to cope with a 10 year old and they find it harder than I did at 30 coping with an 11 year old.

I had my first baby at 23! It’s definitely not too young! I was married at 19 and had co-workers try to tell me I was too young – but no one who actually knew me (friends, family and in-laws) tried to tell me I was too young to marry.
Everyone has some opinion on what others want to do. Do what is right for you and ignore the nay-sayers.

If it’s what you really want go for it! We were 25 when we had our first and it sounds like you’re really switched on and responsible. My mother in law made comment that we weren’t ready without knowing we were trying at the time. Nobody can tell you when you’re ready it’s something you decide for yourself.

I thinkniys entirely up to the individual. Some want to be young mums, others prefer to wait. Sometimes it’s circumstances that dictate when you can have a baby. People should stop paying so much attention yo others and just follow their hearts .

I was pregnant with my second child at 24. I don’t think 23 is too young. I bought up 2 beautiful girls who are respectful, educated and happy. If you really want a child and your financially able to raise that child, I don’t think age should be an issue.

I was 31 when I had my first. I would have loved to have my kids younger but I hadn’t met the right person. You go for it, and ignore the comment!

Each to their own…everyone has different lives and get to different points at different ages

I had my son when I was 18 & my daughter when I was 21 yes Hubby and I was young but we got to grow up with our kids. Don’t have any regrets, 23 is young but if your happy what you’re achieved so far in life and your all settled down and your happy with your long term hubby then go for it. My daughter is 21 she’s works hard and in the process of buying a house, children for her isn’t on her mind it could happened but her and her hubby wants to settle down in a house first I think she wanting her first child around 25yo if everything goes to plan. It’s your body and you know when your ready good luck for the future

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  • • tuiman replied
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  Your always going to have family member that will bring you down, doesn’t matter what you do it’s not about them

I had all 3 in my 20s, and don’t regret it at all. My husband and I knew it was the right time for both of us. Don’t doubt yourself just because of other peoples comments. Everyone has an opinion, but only you can make the choice

Don’t doubt yourself just because a family friend questions your decision and desire to become a parent. You’re not irresponsible or unreasonable to be trying for a baby at your age at all.

I wish I had my kids in my 20’s. I feel I would have had a whole lot more time and patience. Then I would have been able to spend more of my life time with them too.

Only you and your partner can say when you’re ready for a baby so you do you!

I can’t help but feel I would have had a whole lot more patience if I had my babies in my early 20s and not late. If they feel they are ready for a baby and they can clearly take care of it, it’s really nobody’s business. Maybe they don’t want or need to see the world, maybe they want to have a very long relationship with their children and potential grandchildren! I always wanted to have babies younger than what I was, it just didn’t work out that way.

I personally think having a baby as teenager is a bad decision especially if they just don’t want to go to school or work and get their parents to look after the kids. But if it was an accident and they really want to be a parent and step up and take care of their kids I don’t judge. Regardless of your age your never too young or old as long as your a loving and caring parent and would do anything for your kids everything should be fine.