I admit to yelling a lot at my kids, even though I believe it is ineffectual I myself stop listening when someone starts yelling at me, so why wouldn’t it be the same for the kids?!

If we were naughty and persisited when we were old enough to understand we would have one of our favourite toys confiscated. We knew not to touch it until we were told we could. We soon learnt after the first time that we lost them for a 2nd stint. Some children are so defiant that you can talk to them until you are “blue in the face” as an old saying goes. Yelling one or two words is the only way to get the attention of one child I know, then she will listen. Even removing what she is doing makes very little difference. The child is just very stubborn and defiant. Assessments have been done – not just once or twice – and no reason can be found for it. Her hearing was tested and it is very good.

I love this feedback, I have found myself yelling at my child many times and it doesn’t seem to work for me and it makes me look like the bad guy feeling bad about yelling…Gonna try the new approach I have found in this article…

I usually do a countdown and face the wall or go to their room rather than the smack.

yeah i do the countdown but it’s for time out
it does work and the countdown is enough to get them moving

being calm is being in control. i know you get tired but be calm and access the situation. stand there and ask them questions like what are you doing? why are you doing this? what should you be doing? how are you going to stop this behaviour?

encourage them to express themselves and be consistent

Thanks for sharing, it was an interesting article.

My mother was a yeller, big time. I refuse to speak to my children like that.

I’m pretty sure we all know it’s not effective discipline!

Mostly it works, but sometimes I want to just sit down there (or lay as the case sometimes is) and do my own bit of yelling and screaming.

I admit I’m a yeller. Thanks for the article,will try & curb the yelling & see how I go

I hate yelling, like my mother I used to do the countdown thing and found that worked well. Very good article, thanks.

i think its second nature to start to yell when things are not being listened to, but trying to keep it at a minimum, I dont want them having my temper

Will try and give this ago. Clear instruction and no yelling.

I think something like time out would be more effective than yelling or smacking. SAorry thats just my opinion

I admire those that deliver their message in a rational manner, but sometimes, you do need to yell to get through, especially if it is to avoid the child hurting himself and he has tuned out.

thank you sharing this article good read

Yelling not good but don’t smack! Think that’s worse! Time out! Or taking a toy away better option then yelling an smacking!

thanks for sharing was a great read

I will give this a try, my eldest daughter is a struggle and i am yelling now a days hurts me more . i think its time they know who’s boss thanks

I do try controlling the yelling. Wish the other partner would.

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  • • ginoula5 replied
    • 21 Aug 2014 , 1:36 pm

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  Some parent yell so much so the kids almost become immune to it.