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Most mums agree that choosing who’s in the delivery room when giving birth is a very personal decision.

So a husband’s demand that his mother be allowed to watch her grandchild being born has left one expecting mum fuming.

The 34-year-old mum is expecting her second baby in just 12 weeks, and the delivery room demand has caused a huge rift between the couple, with the husband leaving his wife in protest.

“Me and my MIL honestly have a pretty bitter relationship,” the woman, who is six-months-pregnant explained on reddit. “She doesn’t approve of me or my family background. When I was having my first child my husband had asked me if I had considered letting my MIL be in the delivery room. I told him absolutely not and afterwards he never really brought it up. I ended up having my husband and my mother there with me as support.”

‘I told him he was insane’

The couple has recently begun discussing who is going to be in the delivery room during this second birth, and the pregnant woman explained she was happy to keep the same arrangement as last time.

“My husband was clearly not happy about the decision as I could clearly hear him mumbling something under his breath. I asked if he had a problem with the arrangement. He actually spoke and claimed he did. He stated it was massively unfair that I would allow my mother in the delivery room but not his.

“He mentioned that since I got to choose who was in the delivery room last time he should get to choose who’s gets to be inside of the room this time. I told him he was insane if he thought I would let his mother see me in extreme pain. It would be an incredibly uncomfortable situation. He was incredibly upset and left the house. I’ve been trying his friends to see if they have seen him recently but without any luck.”

The woman says she even contacted her mother-in-law who claims she had no idea that her son wanted her in the delivery room. She also mentioned she hadn’t heard from him in a while.

“Im honestly kind of freaking out, both from stress and guilt. I’m worried that my husband isn’t okay but I also can’t help but to feel guilty that I drove him away. I don’t know if I should stay with my current decision anymore?”

What do you think she should do? Let us know in the comments below.

  • Definately think its not bad to not want them there. It also depends on the relationship help with the mil even ones own mother

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  • Personally I didn’t want neither my mum nor my MIL in the delivery room,. Delivering a baby is a wonderful but also a vulnerable thing. It probably depends very much on the type of relationship you have with you mum or mil, but I only wanted my husband to be there as it’s our baby that was being born, not my mum’s nor my mil’s

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  • No way. That’s going a bit too far.

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