being a good parent is exhausting. No one is perfect.

Pretty sure we have all been guilty of poor parenting at some stage, must be lots of emotionally abused kids out there

This may be true, but bad parenting is open to so many different opinions. What one sees as bad parenting, another may see as good or at least plausible.

You can never be over protective, I think children need to know that someone cares and is always there for them, what needs to be considered is proper nutrition in order for the brain to develop and I am not suggesting supplements, I am suggesting good wholefood fresh fruit and vegg and less junk and packaged food.

He does have a very good point. I agree wrapping them up in cotton wool isn’t helping them at all

On the mark. Parents who make their child the victim and can’t see how teaching resilience is part of life. Mean time these kids aren’t learning mutual respect a lot of time. Because of course THEIR child is never wrong or in the wrong.

He may have some valid points but there is definitely enough criticism of the way people parent. Constructive ideas and advice instead of continual criticism that makes people defensive might be the first step in educating parents.

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  • • musicmum replied
    • 02 Sep 2019 , 11:23 pm

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  I agree the majority of parents are doing a good job and only need more support not criticism.

He does have a point!

some important learnings in what he says…parenting is a hard wrap

Hmm it does make sense!

Being a parent involves many complicated and frustrating decisions to be made … I certainly agree that over protecting our children is not good for them, they have to learn that not all things in life are fair.

He has a point, more and more children can’t cope with the most basic of tasks. Would love to read his book

I would like to read that book. I will see if my local library has a copy. I allow my children to hurt themselves and to make mistakes, I let them lose when we have competitions and I let them suffer consequences. It is important to learn how to cope with the bad stuff that comes with life.

I’m sure John has many positive and good points it is vital to try and be as a good parent as you can. Always loving a child to the best of your abilities is certainly one way to do this.

I agree with a lot of his ideas.

I think he makes some fair points.

I agree that there is lots of bad parenting going on, but it comes in many forms, including being overprotective, not protective enough, too involved, not involved enough … parenting is complicated.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 29 Jul 2019 , 5:33 am

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  Spot on!
  Parenting is many layered!

I’d have to agree that over protecting children is damaging to their well being. It doesn’t allow for resilience or responsibility when they are adults in the real World. As for abuse I think they may be stretching it a tad.

I certainly think that poor parenting can be abuse, but don’t consider over protection as abuse, although it sure can cause damage.

This is not a revelation and there are many books on parenting and styles of parenting and the impacts.