Bride Admits That Her Sister Ruined Her Wedding Day

Claiming her sister ruined her big day, this bride shared an unsent letter she wrote to her sibling telling her side of the story.

An Irish bride has shared a letter she wrote to her sister almost a decade ago detailing her heartbreak after her sister allegedly ruined her special day. The bride said that her sister’s engagement announcement a mere six weeks before her own wedding was a selfish move that saw her having to scramble to organise everything herself.

A Stressful Time

The bride told Radio 1 host Ryan Turbidy that she had never had the courage to send the letter. It read, “Dear Sister, It is now six and a half weeks to my wedding and I’ve been putting together invites and trying to get them off in the post. It’s a very stressful time and I’ve had to compromise my wedding plans for a lot of people I don’t know. To top it all, I’ve spent the last two days crying over things I shouldn’t be. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m happy for you. I’m delighted you’ve found someone who makes you happy and who you wish to spend the rest of your life with. But could you not have waited another six weeks before announcing your engagement?”

Completely Overshadowed

The letter went on, detailing the bride’s distress that her sister and fiance had not spared a thought for her feelings about the timing of the engagement announcement. “I’m so hurt that neither you nor your fiance thought for one moment about the impact it would have on me and mine, it should be our time to shine and our wedding, and you have thoughtlessly taken that away. I hope nobody does to you what you’ve done to me.”

The time leading up to a wedding is a sensitive time, so we really feel for this bride, especially because she has carried these feelings around for so long.

Do you think this bride was justified in feeling so upset about her sister’s announcement? Let us know in the comments.

77 Comments

- - musicmum said
  - 31 Oct 2019
    1:00 am
Talk about living in the past, why bring it up now, leave sleeping dogs lie.

- - mom101628 said
  - 30 Oct 2019
    9:37 pm
I think the bride is selfish. When I got married, because it was the custom for the first son to be married first, his other two brothers were married 4 and 8 weeks later – forget getting engaged! It certainly made it easy to remember each others wedding anniversary!!!

- - mom385887 said
  - 30 Oct 2019
    8:14 pm
Wait, I don’t understand why she put in the letter about sending invites out and compromising for people etc. how is that relevant to her sister announcing her engagement? I do understand why she is upset but it’s not like she announced it at the wedding or right before it. Also from the sisters perspective, why should she have to hide the fact that she is engaged because her sister is getting married? Thats not really fair either is it.

- - serotonin said
  - 10 Jun 2019
    1:43 pm
I wonder why she decided to share the letter almost a decade later? Perhaps she has been holding onto the anger. I can understand why she felt upset, but an announcement is different to an actual event. And 6 weeks is a long time really. It’s not like the sister was having her party the day before or something. ?

- - mom81879 said
  - 20 May 2019
    6:13 pm
Not really. Can’t she just be happy for her sister and show it? As for compromising to suit others when it comes to her wedding……NO WAY? It’s your day, do as you please

- - skbou said
  - 25 Feb 2019
    11:02 pm
Really? I don’t think I would have had time or energy enough to be upset or distraught about it…..I don’t think it would have even been a blip other than “oh yay, congrats you guys”.

- - nealsq said
  - 07 Jan 2019
    10:42 pm
How selfish of the bride, I get that it is her day but geez she is complaining about something 6 weeks before her day!

- - Ellen said
  - 03 Jan 2019
    3:52 am
When this bride responds in this way, she actually does give a lot of power over her emotions to others (her sibling in this case): not healthy.

- - mom208539 said
  - 28 Dec 2018
    4:47 pm
I would have been happy. My brother was married on my 16th Birthday, but, before bring out their wedding cake. The brought a “sweet sixteen”cake and gifts for me. Everyone dsng Happy birthday. I couldn’t stop crying. I was proud that they chose my birthday to get married. Even more so as he had since passed on due Melanoma cancer!
- Mum2archer replied
  
  30 Oct 2019 , 9:25 pm
  I’m so sorry for your loss. Your birthday must hold some special memories for you
- - mom101628 said
  - 26 Dec 2018
    11:17 pm
Would never have occurred to me to be worried about the engagement. So different in Mediterranean families, the first born must get married FIRST. The next two siblings were already engaged and waiting in line till the first born made a move. He wasn’t even engaged. We had a whirlwind marriage, two weeks later his next sibling and two weeks after that his third sibling. I genuinely think this person is expecting far too much in life in general.

- - mom206279 said
  - 09 Dec 2018
    4:47 am
I think she’s overreacted a bit. They could have been one of those couple who proposed at the reception.

- - tessie said
  - 06 Dec 2018
    1:32 pm
I think she wrote this letter to vent her feelings but had no intention of ever posting it. To me it was a wonderful way to express her feelings without anyone knowing. Hopefully they were able to laugh about it after.

- - rovermum said
  - 05 Dec 2018
    2:38 pm
I can understand her upset. We don’t know the backstory either. My sister arrived at my wedding in a white satin and lace mini dress with red lipstick, red earrings and red stiletto. It was all about her and her jealousy about me getting married even though she’d done it before. It didn’t work for her so her full mantra was to make my wedding about her. I’m not suggesting this happened here, but you don’t know the full relationship.

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 05 Dec 2018
    10:53 am
I can understand this, although I don’t know why she was sending out invites only 6 weeks before. I had mine out well in advance and I did everything myself anyway. That being said I do think the sister was selfish announcing her engagement so close to her sister’s wedding. Six weeks would not have been a long time to wait.

- - ella12 said
  - 04 Dec 2018
    2:19 pm
I think she may have overexaggerated.

- - littlehandsofmine said
  - 04 Dec 2018
    7:14 am
Oh I couldn’t have cared, doesn’t matter to me

- - Misshenry said
  - 03 Dec 2018
    10:36 pm
Should be happy suppose to support one another not be upset or hate

- - Amanda Holland said
  - 03 Dec 2018
    8:20 pm
Bridezilla. If it was the day before or on the day, then yeah I’d be upset too but six weeks is nearly 2 months before the wedding. Plenty of time for everyone to get over her news and ready for the wedding

- - rnash02 said
  - 02 Dec 2018
    7:13 pm
I think this bride may have over reacted just a tad.

- - mom90758 said
  - 02 Dec 2018
    2:17 pm
What? Why is she upset? How could the sister possibly have destroyed her marriage day? They didn’t announce it on Marriage Day. That would have been completely different. Sorry, I don’t understand all this. 🙁
- mom93821 replied
  
  03 Dec 2018 , 3:49 am
  It is important to focus on your own day and your own celebration and let the other drama just fall away.