Uk has a great system of someone coming around to your home.

This!!!
This should be plastered on every maternity room wall, every doctors office, every baby health clinic and every community noticeboard!!!!

Even as someone who works in the field, has all the knowledge and aware of all the resources…. mental health doesn’t discriminate. It can hit at anytime. I know as a society we are so bad at admitting defeat or reaching out for help, showing we are vulnerable. We’re judged and told “it’s not that hard” etc we see everyone else around us “coping”

Mental health is something all mums should be checked on, new or old. Mums need to be as happy as possible to be the best they can be, I believe. Healthy physically and mentally.

Yep – oh so true and if mum’s aren’t looked after, they can’t look after the new bub either.

She is so correct Mum’s are often forgotten

No I can’t relate. I had my kids in Northern Ireland and the nurse came around to check both the baby and the mum, which is good.

Yep, sadly sounds about right. I was lucky enough to have my Mum who hearing the tremor in my voice got back on that plane and back to hug, see and hear me.

We can be forgotten. We have to look after ourselves too, its important.

We are forgotten;
BUT
Never by our children….
Bugger the rest of the world. No one else matters x

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  • • Mum2archer replied
    • 11 Jul 2019 , 3:09 pm

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  This is true. Best advice, I love it

It can feel a bit like that sometimes. Although I’ve always found I was looked after fairly well

More does need to be done for new mothers. Some have their babies and are out of the door. I had more care with my older children then I did with my younger ones and I was an older mum with them. I noticed the revolving door with the young mothers.

100% agree with this

I think there needs to be more checking on mums but mums also need to be able to say that they need help or not coping without feeling shame and feeling like the worst mother. We also need to come first in the first year of having a baby.

Yeah, hospitals and the health system generally do a poor job for mothers.

Definitely should be more checking up on Mums, especially first time Mums, if they aren’t okay neither is baby.

With my pregnancy no, luckily I was good cared for in hospital.
But when I had a curettage, that was kind of sad. My daughter was a little bit more than one year old at the time. After the operation my husband and she were waiting for me in my room. And the nurses kept playing with my daughter and laughing with her, while I was in bed, suffering for having lost my twins. I felt very lonely in those moments.

I felt unchecked on too. Both my babies were premmies so they got a lot of attention which I never felt badly about, it was entirely necessary. But I was a first time mum of a premmie and had no idea what was happening etc.

I never had anyone ever check my stitches. And I had a pretty nasty tear.

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  • • Blossom replied
    • 19 Jul 2019 , 11:08 am

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  Apparently my Mum’s stitches weren’t checked either even though she had to stay in hospital longer than normal. She had a lot of stitches because of a tear that ended at the top of her leg and became infected. I was a premmie and my Mum was unable to breastfeed me. Apparently I was unable to suck properly and drink my bottle so a nurse decided to feed me. Dad told my Mum (and me at a later date) that the nurse must have force fed me as my whole nightie was drenched (soaked) and stiff with milk when he took it home that night and washed it. One of the Nurses advised Mum to ask if she could take me home and demand feed me when I needed it – not time feed – before the other nurse came back on duty. I gained weight a lot quicker that way.