Hello!

HELP! I have a 3.5 year old who is constantly waking during the night. It’s happening about 5-6 times. He wakes and doesn’t want to go back to his own bed. He doesn’t say he is scared or anything, he just wants to be with us (me and hubby). I am wondering if anyone else has had this problem, if its just a phase and he’ll get over it, or do I need to be doing something? We take him back to his bed, tuck him in but within an hour he’s awake and wandering again. We are very tired and so is he which means he is very grumpy during the day… Any ideas?

Posted by Donna, 18/08/13

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  • It’s probably a phase, a very tiring one though. Can you secure him in the bed any way? Side bars or something? Does he have day naps? You could try cutting them out so he’s more tired for fed at night. Hope you sort it soon :/


  • I always take my daughter back to her bed and lay with her for a few minutes and go. I think it is important to be consistent.


  • hope you have sorted this, we are at a similar place with my daughter


  • Hope some advice has helped and he is settling


  • Seems to be a common thing


  • how is it going now?


  • Hope you managed to find some ideas that have helped.


  • How are you going now?


  • maybe one of you need to sleep in his bed when he does that until he falls asleep and then go back to yours


  • Have you had any luck with any of the advice below?


  • How is he going now?


  • It is most probably a phase that he will grow out of, though he may not be very tired.


  • :P Wanted to know aswell, thanks for posting.


  • Keep the light on and send him back to bed


  • it could be a phase as you said they are not scared, unwell etc. be matter of fact and they will soon realise it is not worth getting up if no cuddles


  • For the first week you will be tired but it may help. When they wakeup take them straight back to bed and don’t talk to them, (except the first time to say you have to stay in bed and sleep in your own bed) continue to return them to bed straight away each time, it is a game of who is stronger. They should over a few nights get better. I had to do this with mine and although at 5 he still wakes up about once every 3 night he goes back to sleep by himself in his own bed.


  • Make sure he isnt hungry therefore not waking up so frequently. Also make sure e goes straight back to bed and don’t allow him to sleep in your bed. Good luck


  • Could one of you possibly stay with him in his room for a short space of time before he goes to sleep? Perhaps introduce a ‘special’ stuffed toy that he is in charge of looking after in bed during the night might help.


  • I think the only way is be strong and keep putting him to bed, I know very hard, but with time he will get the message. My son usually sleeps through the night, but I find if he goes to bed to early he will wake up, my son is 4 and goes to bed around 8.30, wakes at 7.30.


  • keep strong, just calmly take them back to bed and maybe leave a night light on. if they arent getting any attention out of this, he will soon stop.


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