Hello!

Anxiety is kicking my butt at the moment, possibly helped along by depression. I’ve been to my GP who prescribed valium, want to avoid that for as long as possible. On the wait list to see a counsellor. Have chatted to LifeLine, they only give ball park general advice as there’s not the time to convey my full situation and how I got here. So I’m looking to the MoMs community for tried and tested ‘home remedies’ that have worked for you. I know the breathing one and have recently found the tapping of pressure points. I figure the more I have, I can find what works best for me. Right now, walking is doing it, but that’s not great when I wake at 3am with raging anxiety.
Any suggestions welcomed as I’m really not coping with ????


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  • Good on you for reaching out and seekinghelp from a counsellor.
    Valium has quite some sude effects and is highly addictive, I can understand you want to avois taking this. I’m a bit puzzled as to why the GP prescriped Valium as there are better options out there for depression and anxiety, but I would still prefer to at least take the route of counselling or psychological help.
    Example antidepressants that are used for anxiety:
    fluoxetine (Prozac or Sarafem)
    citalopram (Celexa)
    sertraline (Zoloft)
    paroxetine (Paxil, Paxeva, or Brisdelle)
    escitalopram (Lexapro)


  • When I feel an attack coming. I start with 5 things I can See, 4 things I can feel, 3 things I can hear, 2 things I am blessed by, 1 big deep breath. I continue with these until , my anxiety is under control. Sometimes, if I catch my attack early enough it only takes one cycle through, other times, it can be 15 times through, naming different things each time. It works for me. Hopefully it helps you too. xxx


  • Do some self realisation journaling.
    What triggers the anxiety? Is this something you can control beforehand?
    I took a long look at myself, with the help of some in-depth, deep self-realisation questions I found online and can mostly identify where my naivety is coming from.
    Do this and employ some cool down techniques like 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell and one you can taste or finding something to focus on like counting tiles. Sometimes walking barefoot onto a cold floor can help.
    If you can’t get back to sleep, clean or bake or read.


  • I would definitely say please try not to take the valium unless absolutely necessary. It is so addictive.
    Definitely avoid caffeine.
    I’ve been using cbd oil gummies (no thc) which have helped a little.


  • It sounds like you are on the right path to get professional help. During periods of anxiety and depression I have found yoga and meditation useful.. there are many online options if you are not comfortable (or able) to get to a group (although if you can these communities can be amazingly supportive).
    Also, just doing something for yourself every day – it might be the most random thing that pops into your head for example baking a cake but try and do it. It might give you a moment of relief (or escape from my mind as I called it). Good luck and know you are not alone x


  • You’ve done the best thing you can do for yourself, it’s to recognise the anxiety and/or depression and ask for help. No one should be doing it alone so huge praise to you. I’ve been on prescription drugs from my GP for depression and anxiety and found psychologists and counselors to help, it’s just helpful to talk it all through, get to the root cause and work upwards from there, and learn to manage it from there on, self-care is important here too, so walking, meditation, yoga, reading, painting – anything that relaxes your mind helps. Along with your self care activities, for me, I’ve found some natural remedies to help too, the Caruso’s ‘Stress, Anxiety, Sleep & Relaxation’ range is great, magnesium at night can help you stay restful during your sleep, CBD Oils – ask your GP for a referral for approved ones, worthwhile to visit a (good) chiro, sometimes are nerves aren’t communicating well to our nervous system if our spine is not aligned to talk efficiently to our brain.
    There’s a few that really help me, I hope you seek and find what benefits you and your health soon. Wishing you all the best


  • I usually concentrate on a hobby when this happens. So I love painting mandala or building LEGO. It really depends on what works for you. Hope you kind find something that helps you soon! Sending positive vibes :)


  • I’m new to anxiety, I stopped caffeine for a few days and found my anxiety reduced. I’m not a big coffee or Coke etc drinker and I still noticed I was calmer. Then I went out and had a Pepsi. Back on the wagon of herbal teas and hoping it continues to help


  • Finding something to take your mind off it. For me that’s a shower or a phone call. Also I found natural anxiety balms help a lot.


  • I have diagnosed generalised anxiety disorder. Some things that help me are mindfulness, grounding, and listening to sounds of the rainforest at night to help me sleep. Make sure you are getting a little bit of fresh air and sunshine everyday and cut back on caffeine. The most important thing is to keep in touch with your doctor and let them know if things get worse. Good luck on your journey, it may take a while but you will find a coping strategy that helps.


  • Hi
    Self awareness and taking steps like speaking to your GP and getting a referral are awesome. Well done.
    I’m surprised valium was offered too but I’m not a GP.
    Personally, I found borrowing a dog and walking with a friend really helpful. The dog owner, bless her,
    would get up at 530 am to hand over the dog. Rain or shine, we went. I miss doing this so often now but I did a lot of miles when I needed too! All the best.


  • Jigsaws are calming to my daughter.


  • I find cross stitching helps alot with my anxiety. It gives me something to really focus on and I feel accomplished when I do complete a piece


  • Oh no you poor thing! Is it possible to do a evening yoga or meditation class? I would always have the best sleep afterwards and it really helped with releasing all the daily stresses


  • Anxiety sucks ! I found walking helps too, Have you considered getting a treadmill? That might help for the middle of the night if you feel the need to walk then. Try fb marketplace for a second hand one. Teas might help too. Even the ritual of making tea and the aroma – especially if it is a herbal tea can help to calm me. I try and nurture myself too by burning my favourite scented candle. Maybe look into meditating. That can be amazing. I haven’t tried yoga ….yet, It’s on my to do list. I hope you can find some strategies that work for you. Remember that the feelings will always pass. :)


  • Excercise everyday. Buy some little weights to use at home from kmart etc. They will make you feel like a strong, empowered, bada**. Ensure that you are eating fruit and vegetables regularly. Avoid caffeine overuse. Limited caffeine to before about 2pm. Limit added/processed sugar and processed foods. Avoid alcohol. Add lavender essential oil drops to your pillow. Do some stretches or yoga before bed. Go for a short walk everyday you can, don’t think of it as excercise think of it as enjoying nature and try to enjoy your surroundings. If your stuck over thinking draw, paint or write about how your feeling. Get sunshine daily if you can, lay on a towel in your yard etc and soak up some vitamin D in the early morning. Read positive affirmations. If you have trouble sleeping try blue lotus (blue lily) tea. Pray. Talk to God about whatever you are going through, you don’t need to be ‘religious’ to do this. Let go of your worries and have faith something greater is on the way.


  • Sorry you feel this way. Good that you got a referral for psychological help. I’m not sure if the valium prescribed by your GP is the best choice, and would think that Sertraline is a better option as it works both for anxiety and depression and has less negative side effects. Valium is also very addictive.
    As for what you could do yourself now I would focus on breathing techniques and grounding exercises
    Counting your breath. Sit quietly with your eyes closed or half open, clear your mind, and count your own breath without trying to change or control it. …
    Lengthen your exhale. Count as you breathe. …
    Breathe through alternate nostrils. …
    Once you find your breath, go through the following steps to help ground yourself:
    5: Acknowledge FIVE things you see around you. …
    4: Acknowledge FOUR things you can touch around you. …
    3: Acknowledge THREE things you hear. …
    2: Acknowledge TWO things you can smell. …
    1: Acknowledge ONE thing you can taste.
    Have you thought at doodling as alternative for walking ? take it one thing at the time.
    Hope you get help soon !


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