Hello!

Need advice from other parents. My step daughter is becoming so forgetful when it comes to school and constantly leaving things at school. We have told her that once she takes her jacket or hat of it’s to go straight into her bag. She needs roll on insect repellant due to Mosquitos at the school, so I sent her some in her bag with her name on it on Wednesday, it didn’t come home Thursday or Friday and she has forgotten where she put it. Any advice on how to tackle this maybe in a fun way so it doesn’t sound like mum and dad are harping at her!

Posted by anon, 26/11/13

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  • Fish oil tablets are meant to be good. But even have a chat with her teacher and see if they have picked up on her poor memory. There could be something else going on like a processing disorder.


  • I leave notes in the lunchbox or write with permanent marker on the lunchbox (is easily washed off again) when I want to remind my daughter.


  • Hopefully this is just a phase. I hope all went well.


  • My sister in law has the same problem and I think it is the other way around . The responsibility lies on the child and if you make it easy for her she wont learn and that is what my sister in law found out . Maybe say I wont get you anything expensive as I know you will lose it and if you lose it again ,I wont get it for you until you find it . You might see a change very quickly .


  • Answer for losing things, other than to put it back where you got it from as soon as you’re finished with it (not much help for young kids there) I have found with my daughter, writing things down is hugely beneficial for her. She doesn’t always remember to do this, but is getting better, making life so much easier


  • You don’t say how old your daughter is. My teenage son is a bit the same although he seems to be not “misplacing’ things as much now as we have started making him pay for the things we need to replace


  • How is it going now? How old is she? As a young adult I was told I had a bad memory – the irony is you don’t often know what you have forgotten unless someone else points it out. Anyhow I was recommended to take brahmi a herbal supplement but nkt sure if it is suitable for children. I’d suggest to make sure she is sleeping and eating properly – brain foods like fish and green leafy veg. If she seems tired all the time it could be linked to low iron or a sleeping problem, which could cause forgetfulness. Also make sure there’s nothing going on at school like bullying


  • Have you tried playing games with her that promote remember. Another way is to, get her to write things down it can help her to remember


  • do up a chores sheet and a rewards sheet


  • Could you apply the mosquito repellent on her before she goes to school?


  • I hope you solved this, i think its just a stage all kids go through


  • buy her the memory game and play it with her


  • Get a bag that has separate pockets for each thing and tell her where each thing is to go. Ask her to check that all the pockets are filled before finishing school for the day.


  • hows it all going :)


  • there are some good comments here


  • Does she have a diary or use notes or an app on her phone? This may help her record things and then recall them. Some great ideas below and i hope you find some of them helpful :)


  • How about a bracelet that symbolizes remembering to check her check list. Or maybe a ring or just a stamp on her hand like a star.. depends how old she is..
    Get a small diary put it in her bag and on the front of the diary list the things she needs to bring home.
    Hat, Jacket, Lunch Box, Drink Bottle, insect repellent. Try not to displeased with her make a game of it.
    Reward her for bringing all her stuff home at the end of the week with a play date or movie night or something special.


  • Sounds like the typical teenager!


  • Hope now that she is going into a new school year, starting to mature a bit, she will get better at remembering things.


  • My husband is just as bad… always loses his keys because he never puts them in the same place!


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